Gaian Times eco-spiritual e-Magazine #10 out now

 GT getting better..   It’s continuing to gain international readership and contributions and  I am proud of that!

And this issue – with its gold cover title marks the 3rd Birthday of Gaian Times as a Registered not-for-profit Company. Yes we got it started back in February 2011!  The actual first GT magazine was published online in June 2011. So we’ll have a big Celebration then – in London – if you can make it!!

Gaian Times e-magazine issue#10. 10 Feb2014 www.GaianTimes.com

Gaian Times e-magazine issue#10. 10 Feb2014   http://www.GaianTimes.com

As this GT#10 issue comes to you, there is a Conference taking place in London, hosted by Prince Charles and the Prime Minister of United Kingdom, bringing together 50 of the world leaders – for the purpose of taking serious action to stop illegal Wildlife trading!   We are hoping it’s going to be more than just talk! 

Am thrilled to have contributions from Aurelia Anyika (Keyan origins), whom I met at the last `Peaceful protest outside Chinese Embassy in London (to urge China to stop Ivory trade!).  Aurelia is a fellow activist and Eco-Campaigner, passionate and serious- and I look forward to reading more of her work!

We also have Lisa Du Fresne starting a new column in Gaian Times, called Animal Communications (she’s writing from Canada)!  And Renard (Richard) Fox writes from America, about the Druid Path, and shares a poem too!

In case you are wondering, Gaian Times is not all about animals. It’s about people too.  And following on from my report of the London’s Erotica festival (GT issue#9), am very glad to be covering SAFE – the Safety network for people who work in the sex industry (Standards Against Female Exploitation). Angela Belassie has been kind enough to provide the feature with various facts and even a case study.

There is also a feature on the Psychology & Counselling Support being provided for people in cardiff, and Bristol, in our `Talk of the Bay’ feature.

Of course we’ve just had Valentine’s day..  So we have not just the photo of `Canada’s Sweetheart’ Angela La Muse, but she has so kindly answered some of my questions, and provided professionally taken photos of her – just for GT.  (yes, me going to Canada to do a photo shoot with her just was taking too long!)

Vathani Navasothy writes about giving an MOT for your love relationships (she’s a Professional qualified Counselor of almost 24 years, and one of the founding members of Gaian Times!)

Next issue is out just before Earth Day – by mid-April!  It’ll also cover all the esoteric excitements of the Beltane festivities, and more chit-chats on Love, marriages and relationships!

Here’s a list on contents..to tempt you further..

People:

  • The Muse that got away from London- An interview with Miss Angela La Muse- Canada’s Burlesque Artist
  • An Ode to Rinpoche. The Buddhist Lama who started the first centre in UK.

Counseling & Community Features

  • MOT for your Romantic Relationships – Counselling Column by Vathani Navasothy
  • SAFE: Standards Against Female Exploitation. Info, Case Study & Sex Industry / users Survey results
  • Talk in the Bay – How Cardiff is leading the way in offering Counselling for people with Depression.

Eco (good) NEWS Corner

  • US bans Ivory Trade in ts borders
  • India declares Dolphins as `non-human person’
  • Shell scraps 2014 Arctic drilling Plans
  • London Hosts Anti-Wildlife Trading Conference

Protests & Campaigns

  • Kill the Ivory Trade – Action for Elephants Uk protestors outside Chinese Embassy in London
  • Stopping illegal Wildlife Trading & African local realities – Aurelia on the demo outside conference in London

Esoteric Events (Feb-April)

  • Isis Navigatum ritual;
  • Spring Equinox- Hern’s Tribe;
  • One Spirit- Drum, Dance & Full moon Ecstatic Dancing Events (monthly)
  • Pagan Federation Spring Equinox
  • Druid spring Equinox
  • Earth Hour;
  • Meteor Watch 2014- dates for 2014 and event details; Tips on Observing meteors; Tips on Photographing shooting stars!

Esoterica:

  • To be a Druid – An American Fire Druid’s thoughts
  • The Return of the Dawn- Druidic poetry
  • Wiccan Full moon rituals in London
  • Animal Communications – new GT column by Lisa Du Fresne (from Canada)
  • Spells for protection of all Wildlife – Ivoking Cernunnos Lord of the Beasts.
  • Equation of Reality – Is this where Magic & Science meet? Mani Navasothy – Physics Graduate & WIccan High Priest bemuses.

Video blogs:

  • Elephantom Origins- Mani speaks about the cartoon cause!
  • Fan reaction to Doctor Who 50th anniversary Movie
  • Speeches at Protest outside Chinese Embassy

 Fashion & Entertainment:

  • Time Lord turns 50! Doctor Who celebration in over 80 countries;
  • DrWho Imaginarium- Flming our own fan series in London (get involved)

Magical  Bookshops & Sites

  • Atlantis spiritual Centre (Enfield)-
  • Atlantis Bookshop – oldest occult shop in London
  • Spirit of Isis – Healing Centre in Waltham
  • Treadwells-London
  • Clearly Destiny -
  • Spirit of Isis – Healing centre,
  • Pagan Frontiers of London -

Go enjoy this GT#10 issue.

Best Wishes

-Mani Navasothy  (Editor / Director – Gaian Times)

February 2014, London, UK

go to magazine:   Gaian Times..

My take on Eating Disorders (Eating Disorder Awareness Week – 23rd Feb ~ 1st March 2014)

Eating Disorders!!  What do you know about them?   Are you a secret sufferer?  Do you know anyone who is?  What if someone you know is suffering but you don’t know?

Now..it might seem a bit odd me promoting this stuff..  How exactly is it pagan, magical or esoteric?  Well, food is something that `affects’ everyone..   including esoteric people..   For ages (years) in our esoteric ritual gatherings, I try to encourage people to bring home cooked food, or even seasonal food..  Many say what you put in your body is what affects your heath – spiritually, energetically..

I know people who only just eat fruit!!   (you can see their article in Gaian Times!)..  I know people who have had to surgically have parts of their intestine removed..  and have to `eject’ their waste via a small tube..!

So..it’s all relevant.. !

Some years ago, I was helping to type up the notes of a book my sister (Specialist in this field) was writing.. and as a result I had read hundreds of pages of info on it (well, the draft book)..I even illustrated all the graphics and art work for it..  !

So when I see malnourished people, I quietly but unobtrusively do a double take..and wonder..

I myself have some pretty bad eating habits..   I don’t eat my meals on time..  I eat very late at night..   have way too much coffee..I eat junk food..   and suffer from time to time with IBS  (That’s Irritable Bowel Syndrome), Constipations, Indigestions, heartburns..   bloated stomachs…and now with increasing food allergies – I can’t even eat some of the fruits I used to enjoy..  like peaches, pears, and few others..

These are all mild..  compared to the serious problems other Sufferers face.

We are talking about anorexia, Bulimia, obesity, food phobias and more!

With all that in mind..  I like to promote this invaluable help.  Here are the details.

Best wishes

- Mani Navasothy

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In aid of the Eating Disorder Awareness Week 23rd February – 1st March 2014, two free Webinars , Twitter Chat, LIVE Google Hangouts & free 1-2-1 /family Consultations are being offered.

g Dosrder Awareness week 2014- Vathani Navasothy qualified professional offers help

Open to friends, family and sufferers of eating disorders .

For more details  visit

www.AwakeningDawn.com

www.BulimiaHope.com

Shadows & Thorns – what’s making you aggressive?

Are you getting aggressive in relationships? Social situations…in the company of certain people? Here are some thoughts..  that might help you.. (cos we all like someone else to say, `it’s okay’ to us sometimes) :-)

Passion is one thing.. but when some people are eliciting certain aggressions in you ..more often than not.. there are possibly two and only two things at play -

Shadow projections

Shadow projections

 

a) it’s stirring your shadows..

b) they are neither like-minded nor compatible with you.

So what’s this stirring shadow business?   Well,  the actions or statements those people make are making you angry, because it’s a suppressed part of you..  and rather than accept that `dark’ area in you, it’s easier to get angry at or even hate that other person!

One way forward is to look deeper at your self..   privately…just you, yourself and you!   And admit (at the very least) those issues and suppressions you have…and figure out a way to deal with it..    either let loose (if it’s not harming anyone), integrate into conscious mind, seek external support/ therapy etc.

Now if you are not ready to work on your Shadows, that’s your prerogative.. Dealing with it in your own time is fine and don’t let others force you into a schedule or an agenda!  (That’s just bound to get you worked up even more ..right? )

But ask the question, if it is more about the not being like-minded or incompatibility, and you are always having to compromise or worse sacrifice your own needs/wants, (which would just create inner resentment and builds up aggression)..  why put up with a thorn in your paw..?  (ie why keep that person(s) in your life?  That is just masochism..!  It’s even possibly linked to all sorts of low-self-worth issues, self-esteem, lack of confidence, disempowered states, co-dependency and such..  (all very deep and complex areas…and deserve more exploration than a few lines here..!)

Just take  out the thorn from your paw, and get on with a peaceful life!!

There are far more and better things to do.. !!

Best wishes on this friday!  :-)

-Mani Navasothy

The mourning of Mr Navasothy’s Death..!

Am very much alive..and kicking..  and probably will for another 20 yrs or so..but I am not the first Mr.Navasothy!  That name belongs to my late father Kanapathipillai Navasothy!! And this was the morning of his unexpected and accidental demise..  way back on 3rd January 1990.

A day after New Year 1990, he returned to work..  to the Government Office in Elephant & Castle, London.   And by late afternoon, he was crossing the main road, to get the bus..and never made it to the other side of the road!

I didn’t hear about it till much later in the evening.. almost night…as I was with relatives in Cambridge..  The Call came..  an uncle drove me to London..  to Guy’s Hospital..  and by the time I had arrived, my father was dying.. serious head injuries…still in Coma.. slipping to another reality.

And what I did next shocked and surprised my family members in the hospital..  mother, 2 younger sisters, uncles, and cousin from Canada!

I took the camera out of my bag and started taking photos of my father.. !

Mr Navasothy

Mr Navasothy

He had always liked being photographed, and I took it upon myself..to catalogue his entire final journey..from the minute of his death to the moment his body turned to ashes few weeks later in the local Crematorium!   Those photos are still here somewhere..  I used to look at them once a year ..on this night..  But I stopped doing that about 10 yrs after the event..  on a day I decided to truly let go.. It was also when I let go of a tiny bit of his blood…taken from the shirt he had worn at the time..!  And the minute hairs on his shaving blade..!!

What remains is his Wrist-Watch! It stopped then..I have tried winding it.. It moves for a few seconds..  and it stops..!

So it was at 1.35am, on 3rd January 1990, I became the New Mr.Navasothy..  and took my father’s first name as my last!   Navasothy died.

At the inquest..months and 2 postmortem later.. they declared it as High velocity accidental death, because the Bus Driver, the Car Driver and the Motocyclist..all gave conflicting accounts. People don’t have that level of head-injury..  enough to kill a man..if they were just running for a bus and fell to the road!!   Athletes running at 30-40mph perhaps..but not a middle-aged man!  The truth was never uncovered. Who ever hit him got away..! Yeah, a road-kill – my father!!

What followed were years of torments, loss of faith in Gods and religions, lawless lonely years. And out of that darkness and soul searching, the new Mr.Navasothy rose.. !

Death always creates Birth..!   But not the way most imagine..  Personalities of the living shift..  they take on new strands.. and new subpersonalities emerge..!

A broken Watch, a tiny stone and a small twig – bear witness to that moment of one life passing..!  They’ve shaped the last 24 years of my life.. the quest for that forbidden knowledge!!  What lies beyond death? Where are Gods? What are spirits and souls?  Why do ghost and ghouls walk the earth? And what monsters lie within??

Maybe one day, when I am  ready, I’ll hold the 3 items… and I will know who killed my father!  The Watch, the stick and the stone..will tell me!! And then with all my might and magic… I will deliver my Justice!!

Why? Because..I never let go of injustices..  Not a single one..!   And no one forgets the first one!! It sets all the other ones in motion..

An Elephant has a long memory..  and so do I..!   My grandmother said so.. !!

-Manivannan Navasothy

Related Personal links

Ghosts of the past – aiding the dead

Ashes to ashes…Dust to Dust..  Light after Death 

Navasothy- our father who art in Heaven..

The Womb-world goeth! (part1)

Will you take the Red Pill or the Blue Pill?  Yes there are other pills too ..but these matter!!  What am I talking about?   If you remember the film The Matrix, you’ll know what I am talking about!  In the early moments of their encounter, Morpheus was saying to Neo in The Matrix.. take one of them and forget the truth..and go back to the false dream-like reality.. Take the other, and you wake up to reality.. and can never go back! He takes the right pill.. (never mind the colour)..accepts reality..  his body is unplugged..and rejected..ejected.. from the Matrix of fantasies..   and his real life begins (in a mixture of suffocation, loss, pain, slime, and struggles!)

Birth is hard!!

Happy option - infinity (c) Mani navasothy 2013

Happy option – infinity (c) Mani navasothy 2013

Though we are all born, and have been living in the World, so many are stuck in many `womb-worlds’ – clogged and cluttered by needs, dependencies, having signed away their freedom in order to loyally support an ideal, a country, allegiance to a flag, a football team, a tribe, an organisation, a group, a relationships, and so many other things..  !

Within the womb, the unborn child is in a state of total safety and security, but also dependency.  It has it’s every need taken care of..  warmth, food..and even a playmate!  Yes, that placenta ..the twin ..the Soul-mate of the unborn.. ! (And don’t we then spend the rest of our lives searching for that lost soul-mate..  the `someone’ who is missing!!)

But the moment the baby is born..  through the pain and pressure of birth canal..  from dark..through tunnel to a world of  sudden blinding light.  the the safe womb-world is lost!  Soul-mate is gone..  It has to go from being a quasi-reptilian, amphibian to an air-breathing being.. and wait to be fed.  No tubes..no more.. No food and oxygen on tap.. through the umbilical cord. No ready-made warmth of the womb. ..and no mother’s heart-beat ..that steady drum that has been in your ear..and permeating trough your whole body non-stop for a whole 9 months…gone!   (that’s why drum beats always affect us!!)

And the tunnel of pain and birth..  ah..you look for that too!   The passage of rejection from womb-world..  You search for it.. and hope you find it at the end of your days… at death..  the tunnell..leading to light!   Your memories got screwed up..  you equate the moment of birth into world of light..  through the mother’s vulva, as life after death..

womb-world-goeth (c) Mani Navasothy 2014

womb-world-goeth (c) Mani Navasothy 2014

Having been thrown out of Eden (womb), the inner child…is always looking for the pearly gates of vulva..to heaven…back to the sacred womb…!

To be born is hard..  It means you have to be 100% self-sufficient..  No twin. No food in tubes.  You have to breath! You have to open your eyes now..and look at a world of Light and dark..not just the dark of the womb!  You can not float anymore in that secure slosh of amniotic fluid!  You have to stand up..and walk!  Let your spin and muscles support..  !!

It also means you are free..  to make your choices..  to walk your path…choose the roads you can travel..  choose your destinations!

Take the Option now..  to be born!

No one likes a cry-baby (except mothering types).  No one likes a winge-bag (except the gossip-mongers and rumour-millers).

Stop looking for death..your body is dying since the moment of your birth..  but new cells are always growing to replace the dead ones..   At some point, that balance will shift.. But long before that, Live!!

Well.. I still haven’t talked about Infinity, and the quantum realities that you can manipulate..

That’s for another blog post :-)

Happy New You!

-Mani Navasothy

ps. Thanks to the late Maureen Brown, Wiccan High Priestess, Psychologist, Professional Counsellor, mother of 3, and grandmother, friend to hundreds, and rebel to many….for introducing me to Womb-world.

related blogs

Equation of Reality- basis of Magic

2014 Year of ImPossible Dreams

2014 : Year of I’mPossible Dreams!

Impossible Dreams? what’s the point, you ask?   Read on then!!

A recent conversation I had with a magical person from Germany went along the lines of the so many `rules’ and `laws’ that modern people who practise ritual magic seem to have accumulated. Dear God, think of all that dross, all that clutter, all those `can’t do’s’!

My thoughts are far more sharper on this..  perhaps more black and white…than all the grey!

If anything has human-made rules, and restraints, and laws..  it’s either Science, Religion or politics.

Magic – by its very virtue makes all things possible!   We believe the not-possible. That’s why it’s called Magic!!   And mine has no rules!  It never did!!   And short of God or Goddess, or an angel or a Dragon or Fairy or some elemental or all the creatures of the mind and magic pop-visibly-in front of me, and say anything otherwise, I am going to operate on the same proviso I have always operated on.. (when people are not brain-washing me with conditioning that is!).

That there are no limits or laws to Magic! Anything is possible!!

Have a Magical 2014 – Year of Impossible Dreams..  that is to, `I’m Possible’ :-)

2014- Year of Impossible Dreams & Infinite possibilities (c) Mani Navasothy

2014- Year of Impossible Dreams & Infinite possibilities (c) Mani Navasothy

Happy New Year!!

-Mani Navasothy

O, to be a Man in modern times (Male Mysteries)

O, to be a Man in modern times:

So Brad Pit talks about standing by his woman (Angelina) when she lost 30 pounds and went through a low of all time.. and Dustin Hoffman emotionally explains the interesting thing about being a woman in Tootsie ..(`That was never comedy for me’..*tears*) ..

Do you think it’s time the rest of us men started to speak of our discoveries, our emotions, our hopes, sacrifices, dreams and nightmares.. and about the women who lifted us up.. and those who used us, abused us, envied us, feared us, toyed with us, loved us, hated us, and wanted to put us on planes and shoot it down?

Or shall we speak of those who could only see a threat and the large monstrous shadows the small boys within us cast? Shall we ordinary men speak of the darkness and light we have found in the hearts of the women in our lives?

Why must a man be praised only when he shows sensitivity to a woman or a child?
Why must he tuck his tooth, tail and claws, and submit or be vilified?

Why can’t a man’s voice be as strong as thunder and as sharp as a sword, as well as his touch be as gentle as feather and eyes soft and smokey as mist? Do we not worrhip Odin & Thor, Hern and Ares, as well as Pan and Sol and Osiris too? What of Chiron the mortally wounded warrior-Healer-Teacher? And Prometheus bringer of fire?

Isn’t it time.. for men to educate the world that we have more than just testosterone and beer flowing in our veins.. ?
There are moon-huts and red tents for women.. So isn’t it time for some Weyland-Huts and Sun-Circles..for men??

Males Mysteries in London - coming soon in 2014 (by Mani Navasothy / Hern's Tribe)

Males Mysteries in London – coming soon in 2014 (by Mani Navasothy / Hern’s Tribe)

Being a modern-man is not just about a pussy-kiss, a cock-rub or a bunny-tail dabbing on our faces and arses..
It is more than a spear to the Cauldron..
Deeper than a lance to the boil, more joyous than a wand to the Chalice.

It is not about the guilt of not being sensitive or strong, providing or not, or carrying the shame of men gone before and what they have done to other women..

Being a man is about the dance of light and life in all our dark places… turning war into peace, and peace into prosperity, with Sun in our hearts, moon in our brows, and Stag-horns adorning our Crowns..

It is much much more.. !
Background :

Back in 2002, in `Unicorns’ (my then-coven), a small group of men studying transpersonal psychology with the late Maureen Brown, began to meet monthly for `Male Mysteries’ discussions, prompted by Maureen. It lasted only few months. Some years later, I went on to start Hern’s Tribe, with ideas of it being a male mysteries group..but it evolved in a different way, encompassing men and women. For a long time, I have thought about these. A few years ago, Chris Crowley mentioned something about a Wiccan Male mystery meeting..that never materialised. With the guys of Hern’s Tribe, I’ve made some explorations (closed) on this subject.. exploring fire, using animals (road kills), tool making and so on (I once had to `procure’ a dead-Stag head using only a sharp edge of a branch..and later clean it all up only with craft knife to the bone..! So let’s just say Ia m no longer `squeemish’)

The NEWS: (Male Mysteries is coming to London)

So..in 2014, look our for one or two new things.. as preparations have been already underway..for few months on the exploration of `Male Mysteries (London). A facebook page & group are already set up (secret for now)..and additional pages in my Hern’s Tribe website are being developed too.. Dates for meeting are set.. and all will surface soon :-)

Bright Solar Blessings
-Mani Navasothy
Winter Solstice 2013

Gaian Times: Eco-Spiritual Magazine #9 out now!

You know what..in all the excitement of the Doctor Who 50th anniversary event, I totally forgot to blog the fact that last week, the issue#9 of the Gaian Times e-Magazine was published online :-)

Cover- Gaian Times #9 Nov2013

Cover- Gaian Times #9 Nov2013

Editor’s Letter

“…Gaian Times Magazine just keeps getting better – as more and more professionally published authors, experts and beginner-writers join our ever growing team of contributes!

In this issue, we are joined by Kenny Klein, who writes about a very Wiccan Samhain, Amber Agha sharing her shamanic perspectives on Releasing the past held by the land, Julie Dollman writes about Re-Engaging with Living Energy, and Christ Street focuses on the mystical nature of London – be it a city of revelations, planetary chakra or a Stargate!

That’s not all! John Dray, Andrew Durling & Maria Mossman contribute eco-themed reports on the Declining Bee population, the Fracking issues & movie, and the March for Elephants, UK – a new group set up to campaign for saving Elephants!

Something I had always wanted to know- and as if my magic- Bruce Nixon’s feature on how money is made by banks and the impact of monetary reform – covers my curiosity!

Gordina Steckert from Germany writes about spiritual concepts to keep us emotionally stable; Vathani Navasothy not only writes about Herbs fo ruse at Halloween, but gives us photo-blogs about the Dartmoor Stones – which rather nicely resonate with our mini-author profile on Rebecca Beatie who has written books on those very west country landscape-inspired fiction.. !

Wendy Stokes has once more contributed with a Book Review, and also written about the troubles caused by those `Teenage Exorcists from USA’.

My own interview / video follows up the matter, by giving an opportunity to Maria Savva -owner of Spirit of Isis. Interestingly, Maria’s son George Eralclides – whom I met during that event turned out to be a fashion blogger, and has contributed GT’s first fashion column!

And that’s not all.. By now you’ve seen the titillating images of that `Angel’ on the cover..and will know that we are starting some new features.. into the many worlds of alternative cultures. We start with a report on Erotica 2013!

Well, things are certainly going to warm up, as we head towards winter in western hemisphere, and summer in the southern hemisphere.

Earlier in 2013, GT took a few extra months to surface (April’13). But we are going to make up for it… with a special edition next month! (Oh yes, more work for me..I’ve only just finished with this issue!)

As it’s coming up closer to Christmas / Yule, and New Year, we’ll go with those themes..as well as our usual columns. Am already looking forward to `The Muse that got away’ (ahem, that will be a Burlesque feature on a good friend of mine who is very successful now in Canada!). We hope to have features from the alternative/ goth scene in Brighton; A persona profile of a Glastonbury Priestess of Avalon.. Astrology, and more!

So hurry up and finish reading this issue…before the next one gets here quickly!!

Best Wishes

-Mani Navasothy (Editor / Director – Gaian Times)

November 2013, London, UK…”

Contents : 

Feature articles

  • A very Wiccan Samhain
  • Death by Words
  • Releasing the past, held by the land- a Shamanic Perspective
  • Re-Engaging with Living Energy
  • Five spiritual concepts to keep you emotionally stable.
  • Samhain Herbs: Insights into Seasonal Herbs
  • London city of Revelations, Chakra or Stargate?
  • Making Money – A word on monetary reform

Ecology & Campaigns

  • Honey Bees Decline;
  • Gasland pt2: A Fracking Film Event & Review
  • March for Elephants – Reviews & New Initiatives in UK
  • International Peace Day- Family Picnic in London

Esoterica:

  • Storm Magic & Psychic Techniques
  • Wicca Full Moon Rituals in London

 Events & Reviews

  • The Country Writer’s Craft: Writing for Country;
  • The Warrior’s Call to Glastonbury
  • International Peace Day
  • Quests of Isis (Thames Ritual)
  • Woodland Autumn with Romuva & Hern’s Tribe

People & Community:

  • Author feature: Rebecca Beattie -
  • Right of Reply: Spirit of Isis speaks to Teenage Exorcists

 Photo & Video blogs:

  • Ancient Stones of Dartmoor
  • Notting Hill Carnival
  • Closing Down Kew Gardens!
  • Thames Halloween Ritual

Culture, Fashion & Entertainment:

  • Travelling Talesman;
  • A Rosey Winter; Halloween fashion;
  • All Acts of Love & Pleasure: A Day at Erotica 2013

Magical Bookshops & Sites

  • Atlantis spiritual Centre (Enfield)-
  • Atlantis Bookshop – oldest occult shop in London
  • Treadwells-London
  • Clearly Destiny – based near Euston, London
  • Crystal Delights Emporium (website created under Gaian Times Social Enterprise Initiative!)
  • Pagan Frontiers of London – established in 2005, this Community platform now serves over 50,000 visitors a year!

Enjoy..  Just click the picture…visit the website…opt-in to become FREE subscribers..and we’ll send all the links to you to star reading..  BUT hurry..  next issue#10 comes out in m id-December..

Best wishes

-Mani

Gaian Times facebook page

Gaian Times website

Diwali – Day of Light and the slaying of Demons?

Ramayanam bannerOn this day of Diwali, Hindu festival of light, my best wishes to all.. I think if we keep focusing on the beauty and creativity within, and not the monsters, we might just find that the monsters are just protective shells of yet more vulnerable and wonderous creatures within…waiting to be loved.. and lost inside their own shells, unable to break out! 

Bright Stellar Wishes

-Mani

For more blog posts on Tamil & Hindu cultures, follow this link http://quantumphoenix.net/category/tamil-hindu-culture/

Dealing with Kangaroo Courts in your Personal Relationships..!

Have you been tried in emotionally charged Kangaroo Courts?  

When a bunch of people say they want to `clear the air’, call you to a friendly meeting in their home-grounds, beware that shadow pack-mentality is already in play behind the scenes, and their subconscious minds are looking for ways to hammer you into some sort of submissions. Sadly their minds are already projecting their own shadows on you..and it’s because you are `not accepting’ that they’ve become disgruntled suddenly.. They will keep looking to find behavioral evidence in you that proves they were right about you after all.  Anything and.. sadly everything you say..  will be taken as evidence against you..and used to prove only your guilt.   It’s a no-justice situation.. !

Question of intention:

Personal meetings start with best of intentions..or so it will seem  (groups of friends, in membership organisations, private family circumstances).  But the question is …do you or others want a real resolution, or are you all just gunning for someone’s guts under a pretense of `clearing the air’?

Transpersonal concepts to look up (if you really are interested)

  • Shadows
  • Ego & super-Ego
  • Projections and Projection Breaking
  • Transference  and Counter transference.

Initial advise:  

 a) Avoid meeting in their home-grounds. Neutral places are very important.  You need to feel safe and secure, as much as others!

 b) Starting states:  Are you are already starting with apprehensions, possibly a sense of persecution?  Except lawyers, no one goes in to such meetings without apprehensions.   Having a friend there is a good idea.

c) Are you a Chicken?    Beware goading tactics by others – your confidence or calm posture is the first things people tend to `attack’ (consciously or not).  Bombarding you with issues, bringing up real  vulnerable old issues are ways others can keep you off your balance.   `challenging you’ into a corner, ie asking if you can handle things or not (goading your ego) is another tactics lawyers and naturally clever people use ..

 d)  If one or more party declares they are not in a good emotional place (due to other factors) or tired from a long day of work etc..  have the common sense and decency to  postpone..especially if a postponement has been asked for.  Don’t then throw emotional manipulation and force the meeting to go ahead anyway!    Physical or emotionally tired situations bring out inner-child tantrums ..it’s grossly unfair and counter-productive to what you ALL are trying or hoping to achieve, and these meetings need to be between adults..not your inner-children..  Playground is best for kids.. not reconcilliation meetings!!

 e) During meeting, make sure all parties are seated in a balanced way…no one sitting on a higher chair or lower than others (believe me, that’s actually a clever disempowerment technique! )

 f) Find a neutral 3rd party `facilitator’ …not one who is involved in the situation, or has strong bonds with the others (or with you).    And when a `facilitator’ has no counselling or psychology training, and is the one self-appointed or appointed by the other parties, that is already a clouded objective situation..!

 g) Do not represent your self..   You simply can’t when you are in a highly charged emotional state..and what you say will only be used against you. Even hardcore criminals have lawful proper representations!

 h) When others star by saying, we are all friends / family here and this is not a confrontation but a chance to clear the air or resolve matters – don’t fall for that. They may mean well but human nature quickly takes over..and so does mud-slinging, tit-for-tat cleverness, bullying, reverse psychology, playing the victim, turning on the tears and so on. Unless you are God or a Saint, one tiny negative (even perceived) comment WILL evoke an internal defensive or retaliation reaction.  Those will simmer and work in your or their subconscious through out, and will seek expression – not immediately, but 5 minutes, 10mins, 2 hrs or even 5 months later!

 i) It is best to enter these `meetings’ with plenty of safeguards of neutrality, objectivity and arbitration..  There is huge potential for making matters worse!

 j) When someone keeps accusing another of a particular action, there is 50 – 50 chance that a) they are making a real observation   and/or  b) they are projecting their own `stuff’

k) `I hear you’ is not the same as `I understand’..  and `I understand’ stated in the heat of a meeting does not necessarily mean they or you do understand on an emotional level.   Thinking & Feeling are on opposite ends of the spectrum in Psychology!

l) Often a single meeting is never enough to get to the heart of issues. Time needs to pass for all to absorb what each other have said, and further meet-ups are required..

 

I shall look through my years of Counselling & Psychology training notes, and add more tips here later..

-Mani Navasothy

ps. Originally posted as a `Note’ in my facebook page.   Find me on facebook ..look for my page..   Mani Navasothy