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Wanna keep your friend on social network? Follow these etiquettes!!

Don’t you just get tired..  of accepting a `friend’ request..and within a minute (or a day, if you are lucky) you get a post or ten..from your `new’ friend..  a 3rd party link, a funny picture, a video, a joke, a poke, a product promotion, a `like my page’ request, an invite to play  a game..  buy a `really cool..must have App’ and so on?

Well, will you or them do that ..if they just met you in a party? in the streets? In a relative’s home? In a wedding?

Only Salesmen and saleswomen pull out their tricks of promotions and rewards…within 30 seconds of saying that first hello to you..  Time is money..and they work the averages..It’s a number game!

How friendships should work on facebook & social network (c) Mani Navasothy 2014
How friendships should work on facebook & social network (c) Mani Navasothy 2014

Well..what are YOU trying to achieve?   Build up an army of `friends’?    and when you do…who will you actually phone ..when say..you just had a car accident, or your heart just broke..or you just lost your pet tropical fish..or ..you just saw the girl/ guy  in the street and fell in love and must have friend support?

Social networking may have started in someone’s dorm.. a down to earth, human place..  of fun, flirts and study! But it’s now pushed and managed by marketing gurus and media moguls..

The more you like, share, post…more you are helping them to grow their empire..and bank balance!

And if you are trying to have a similar piece of the action..good luck..  it’s possible..  but that takes time.. and you ain’t gonna get `your empire’ up and growing..by spamming your new found friend..!!

So do the world a big nice thing..    follow these simple real life friendship building ways..  yes, on social networking too..  Behind those pixels, pictures, links, posts and pages..  there are real human people..  and some of them would like real friends…:-)

Well, I don;t know about you..but I do!   🙂

-Mani Navasothy

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You are a Celebrity on Social Media – Please do not swear! (aka Be mindful of what you say)

swearing on Social Network
swearing on Social Network

Remember what the Presenter says to the `housemates’ (contestants) in a popular reality TV show ..`You are live on TV..Please do not swear!”   Well, the same goes for Social Media Network sites..

Take facebook for instance. Last time I checked it had about 1 billion members (assuming people don’t have multiple accounts..which they do…about a Million of them, according to previous news reports).  Now the World population is about 8 billion people.   So In this network alone, there’s about one eighth of the World population.

Now most people have their accounts as `public’ …(let’s discuss privacy issues in another post). So effectively, anyone of those 1 billion people on that site could take a look at anyone’s profile and status posts!

Everyday people who post ordinary stuff..   what they eat, where they went, who they met, their thoughts and feelings..and reactions..  what their pet is doing.. etc etc..  And they forget as they immerse themselves in this everyday sharing..(which is exactly what the site wants you to do) – that others are watching.

No problem..  if you are one of those people who don’t care about what others may think of you.   But if you are one of the people who’s public credibility and reputation matters …in your social or community standing, or more alarmingly, in your career…  then you really don’t want to be leaving a trail of self- incriminating  evidence…on your own personal profile or status updates!

The problem is..  personal profile and personal status updates are exactly that – personal. So it makes sense to write what you are thinking and feeling – without censoring it. Isn’t that what sharing sis?    Well, yes,  with your trusted inner sanctum of family and/or friends…in a private post or message..  or even in a private group.

But not in public.. or somewhere where potentially one of the or all of the other 1 billion people could look!

They don;t know you – and most likely, they won’t care.. other than take it as that moment’s entertainment. (After all, people do watch Soaps and dramas on TV…and enjoy the troubles and tribulations of `soap characters’  lives’  …Don’t they?  So why wouldn’t  some people   also behaving in enjoy reading about the trials, tribulations, tempers and tantrums ..of another stranger? ie you!)

Unless you’ve got your online privacy set sky-high – better than Fort Knox – and only your friends can see every word you type in your status updates- you really should not behaving in a manner that can come back and bite your reputation and credibility.

This is particularly important – I mean your online credibility – if you are a person who is a `public personality’ (known by many and is a wheeling n dealing life n soul of the party person), is providing a community or public product or service.

Words spread fast in the winds..  and faster in internet streams..pixel to pixel ..r and screen to screen..  and a personal disclosure or an emotional outburst of today..could topple the entire Empire tomorrow..! Smallest slips…and people will jump on you and tear your credibility apart..!!

We live in a Social media world, where even a genuine mistake or misunderstanding, or a technical (website) glitch… can be taken by some blinkered people (friends even) and escalated into a storm…that tears through one’s social, emotional or personal life.  So if you are intentionally slipping up and leaving trails of self-incriminating evidence.. not even Google can help you wipe it out!

Even if you delete your posts, no telling if an e-mail notification of it went into the inbox of all your contacts.. and here’s the thing… today’s `friends’ (one of 200 or one of 2,000!)  can turn our and become tomorrow’s foes…and then they’ll have the perfect tool to bring you down..  your own words!!

-Mani Navasothy