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Life is a Spiral – not a Circle (motivational)

Life is a Spiral (c)ManiNavasothy2014
Life is a Spiral      art (c) Mani Navasothy 2014

Life is not a circle..but a spiral.

Cycles seem to come around, same things seem to repeat..but each time we are moving slightly up or down in progress.. and each time, we should try to do things slightly different, to see if energies and life shifts to better states..

At times, others may try to keep us in the same spot, or collapse our life from a spiral to a circle.. Not letting that happen is also hard work.. (in other words, letting people’s expectations and projections getting the better of us..).

Its hard enough each of us having to work on our own shadows, issues and projections.

So let’s make it easy on one another..

Life is not a Circle. Life is a spiral..

Let’s keep moving ..from the deep subconscious prompts onwards and upwards to our higher selves ..

-Mani Navasothy

 

Wanna keep your friend on social network? Follow these etiquettes!!

Don’t you just get tired..  of accepting a `friend’ request..and within a minute (or a day, if you are lucky) you get a post or ten..from your `new’ friend..  a 3rd party link, a funny picture, a video, a joke, a poke, a product promotion, a `like my page’ request, an invite to play  a game..  buy a `really cool..must have App’ and so on?

Well, will you or them do that ..if they just met you in a party? in the streets? In a relative’s home? In a wedding?

Only Salesmen and saleswomen pull out their tricks of promotions and rewards…within 30 seconds of saying that first hello to you..  Time is money..and they work the averages..It’s a number game!

How friendships should work on facebook & social network (c) Mani Navasothy 2014
How friendships should work on facebook & social network (c) Mani Navasothy 2014

Well..what are YOU trying to achieve?   Build up an army of `friends’?    and when you do…who will you actually phone ..when say..you just had a car accident, or your heart just broke..or you just lost your pet tropical fish..or ..you just saw the girl/ guy  in the street and fell in love and must have friend support?

Social networking may have started in someone’s dorm.. a down to earth, human place..  of fun, flirts and study! But it’s now pushed and managed by marketing gurus and media moguls..

The more you like, share, post…more you are helping them to grow their empire..and bank balance!

And if you are trying to have a similar piece of the action..good luck..  it’s possible..  but that takes time.. and you ain’t gonna get `your empire’ up and growing..by spamming your new found friend..!!

So do the world a big nice thing..    follow these simple real life friendship building ways..  yes, on social networking too..  Behind those pixels, pictures, links, posts and pages..  there are real human people..  and some of them would like real friends…:-)

Well, I don;t know about you..but I do!   🙂

-Mani Navasothy

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Shadows & Thorns – what’s making you aggressive?

Are you getting aggressive in relationships? Social situations…in the company of certain people? Here are some thoughts..  that might help you.. (cos we all like someone else to say, `it’s okay’ to us sometimes) 🙂

Passion is one thing.. but when some people are eliciting certain aggressions in you ..more often than not.. there are possibly two and only two things at play –

Shadow projections
Shadow projections

 

a) it’s stirring your shadows..

b) they are neither like-minded nor compatible with you.

So what’s this stirring shadow business?   Well,  the actions or statements those people make are making you angry, because it’s a suppressed part of you..  and rather than accept that `dark’ area in you, it’s easier to get angry at or even hate that other person!

One way forward is to look deeper at your self..   privately…just you, yourself and you!   And admit (at the very least) those issues and suppressions you have…and figure out a way to deal with it..    either let loose (if it’s not harming anyone), integrate into conscious mind, seek external support/ therapy etc.

Now if you are not ready to work on your Shadows, that’s your prerogative.. Dealing with it in your own time is fine and don’t let others force you into a schedule or an agenda!  (That’s just bound to get you worked up even more ..right? )

But ask the question, if it is more about the not being like-minded or incompatibility, and you are always having to compromise or worse sacrifice your own needs/wants, (which would just create inner resentment and builds up aggression)..  why put up with a thorn in your paw..?  (ie why keep that person(s) in your life?  That is just masochism..!  It’s even possibly linked to all sorts of low-self-worth issues, self-esteem, lack of confidence, disempowered states, co-dependency and such..  (all very deep and complex areas…and deserve more exploration than a few lines here..!)

Just take  out the thorn from your paw, and get on with a peaceful life!!

There are far more and better things to do.. !!

Best wishes on this friday!  🙂

-Mani Navasothy