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Private Hells & Public projections – keeping safe & sane on Social media (personal)

Private Hells & Public projections
(keeping safe from social-media-mobs):

Facebook is an unsafe place to talk about loved ones. people can turn into a lynch mob in a matter of minutes on facebook.. and rip out someone’s 40+ year life . Eventual Apologies don’t fix that kind of trauma a mob can cause in one life.. (Trust me..I’ve been a victim of that sort a few times in the last 10 years). Nowadays I see it coming..and get tough.. before the slime wave hits my life. If that looks at times like am over-reacting, ranting or being silly – well.. see it however you like. Am protecting me and my loved ones at whatever costs.

And then there’s the jealousy & envy types… a whole load of people out there who resent me.. because they think I am carefree and don’t work hard on my own future security (like they do on theirs in some obsessive mental way!! see I can judge too!!) They snipe at me, or ridicule me or try put-downs at every turn.. They see me as some Peter-Pan… utterly unaware of the private fears, tears, struggles or agonies I have in my life. (actually some are worse..because they *do* know me..and still go down this route!).
So I’ve grown tired of trying to be reasonable with unreasonable people.
I neither need them nor their festering energies in my life..

My rule is simple: My community profile is in the public eye…not my private life, not my loved ones and not my family. So I don’t write about my own future, my own families..or share photos. Only real friends who have stood the test of time and have stood by me through my hellish-years have that priviledge..of knowing about my private life..

-Mani

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Self-serving Corporate entities & Community builders (part 1)

The real agenda of these corporate `community builders’ and `social media strategists’ is always about positioning themselves to make money… Individuals do it to some degree.. not a problem. On a primal level, every living creature competes for resources to keep itself nurtured and safe. (Just saw a squirrel in garden looking for spots to hide a nut). And we human are no different. We all have to earn a living afterall.

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Anway, big companies purporting to be adding to society do it on monu-Mental levels ..ie power-positioning themselves, They use us `members of community’.. we use them `providers of platforms’. They try to get us to spend on them and on their partner/ Affiliates’ products and services. .. we try to save by looking for short cuts and gimmicks..!

Guess what? They give us short cuts & gimmicks that look like its making our lives thrilling easy and better…but they got there by studying social psychology and patterns of our behaviour, and created those very short cuts & gimmicks. They would say it’s about providing solutions to our every problem or cause or concern. But in a blunt world, we know it as `cornering the market’!

If it’s not money, then it’s fame, or authority, or followers that are the real end results for those initiatives. And even if someone starts with the most altruistic or spiritual intentions.. they either get lost in the ocean or get swamped, stamped on, swallowed..or worse..have to start selling their souls (ie ideals) to survive and keep their altruistic ventures going..!

Everything costs and that cost has to and often does come out of us!!

I wrote this on a friend’s wall about social media..and this is the extended version.

That said, I’ll be saying more about individuals who purport to build or serve communities but again have the self-serving components that are much bigger than the social serving parts of their plans..

Trouble is.. you are doing it..and I am doing it.. we are doing it.. to some degree. So this sort of conversations put out are usually double-edged swords..that cut both ways. Then again.. it’s all about degrees.

One of the saddest problems I observe is that those of us here on the grass root levels.. swipe and snipe at one another ..for trying to earn a few hundred pounds a month.. to pay bills.. to provide for our loved ones – while the big guns out there are bulldozing the world to make millions of pounds/ dollars! We are powerless to stop them.. we are pawns in their hands.. so we helpless people take our bitterness and frustrations out on our selves and one another ..here on the grass root levels. Tell me that this is not the truth of it? !

So by NOT addressing this schism, we are letting the big ones get away..
So having a little scratch wound by our own swords is a small price to pay for opening up these topics . (and you all know that I have enough scars and bloody noses to show for it.. and am not stopping any time soon..) :-/

Part 2 / Video soon. 8-| )
-Mani

Sinking into Cyberspace..!!

You all know I have a Physics degree/ tech background and into all the multi-media stuff. Am also very much about nature & spirituality..and striving for tech-free time/ balance in life.

Everything is becoming hyper-real and accelerated these days.. What’s the hurry..? where do we have to get to so fast? Mars? Uranus? Death? Reincarnation? Oblivion?!

We are tumbling through our lives, transplanting & embedding our minds and emotions more and more into Cyber realms.. living our lives there too..and forgetting the shadows taking shape in the Collective.. Am not talking hypothetical. Am talking thought-forms, spirits, wraith and cyber-psychic entities (there I just invented a word).

Yes people are supposed to be connected..but NOT to 100’s or 1000’s.. however superficial that might be. At those levels, individuality blurs and gets lost. If that’s what you want..fine. :-/

There’s another danger too!! When any more than 1-2 people gather in a group, a group shadow forms within that small collective subconscious.. and it gets projected out onto its members and outsiders.. One becomes the hero another the black sheep.. Have we forgotten `Lord of the Flies’ that we all read in primary school English?! Imagine the fears, phobias, whims, wants, power-struggles, egos and other secret obsessions within each of our minds..spilling into social media..along side our posts and pictures and status updates…sliding past any obvious `filters’ and privacy settings. It’s all gathering..coalescing..in the darkness of cyber-realms that we can’t see.. And it’s reaching out tendrils to feed.. !

Those of you energy-sensitive must have realised the shifts and tremors by now surely?!!

It is really time to slow it down.. and not fall for multimillion dollar companies’ strategies, marketing and the euphoria of quick adrenalin fixes (event junkies!). Yes I know, the fear is of not getting left behind. The curiosity is in wanting to know everything. But instead of food & drinks ..we are now consumers of pixels and info bytes. It’s feeding mass amounts of useless junk into our minds on a daily basis.. Yes humans have some 80-90% brain space unused. But it;s not a hard drive to be filled with junk.. is it? There are mysteries of the mind that we can be working to unlock.. That all requires silence and stillness ..not more electronic pixellated noise!

So.. take stock now.. as I am.. !! It’s not a static process.. We’re going to have to regularly take stock and balance our cyberlives with physical lives.

-Mani

ps. I totally welcome real personal relationships and connections. 🙂 Happy to have hours of sit-downs, informal lounging and tons of teas, coffees and wines.

The Facebook Friendship Test (Don’t do it!)

The FRIENDSHIP TEST on FACEBOOK: (aka The EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL).

This sort of thing does the rounds..like gypsies selling their aluminium wrapped paper flower and asking for money, or chain letters that say God & Angels saved them but will curse if you don’t spread it to 29 people…etc..

We HATE these friendship tests about `who’s reading my status’ and `copy this, leave 1 words etc.

facebook friendship test (c) Mani Navasothy 2015
facebook friendship test (c) Mani Navasothy 2015

NEWS FLASH.. facebook decides whom it shows your status updates to.. So fact is,  probably less than 30% of your `friends’ see your status updates ..(the rest of your friends don’t even know you are testing them!!).

And of you were thinking that ..well…your friends should mark your account for   `give me notifications’ – think again.  We’ll be needing 36 hrs a day to catch up on all of our friends’ status updates..  and liking, sharing or responding to them all.. .and we will never go to work, never sleep, never have sex, never do gardening..never vote and so on..

So here’s the deal…Wise up people…STOP posting those silly tests….!

Post an actual silly joke ..or a video of a kitten licking a fur blanket…or a gif of a grass hopper jumping into a cup of Soup (sorry, don’t know where that came from…probably from the lawn).. those might actually get a response from your other friends.. !!

And if you – like me – are one who gets annoyed and feels torn and partially inclined to respond but don’t like to….well, here’s your salvation trick –   You know how the USA & UK governments have a policy of non-compliance to any terrorist demands..  ?   Well, adopt same policy for self..   Don’t oblige any Emotional Blackmailers!

And if you are a friend who – for whatever difficult life reasons – wants to test your friends…   here’s a bit of advise..

Friends don’t test friendships!!    If  you do plan to, it is more likely that …your friends will unfriend you…if they are anything like me, who has that `non-negotiating with Blackmailers’ policy!!

-Mani Navasothy