The FRIENDSHIP TEST on FACEBOOK: (aka The EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL).
This sort of thing does the rounds..like gypsies selling their aluminium wrapped paper flower and asking for money, or chain letters that say God & Angels saved them but will curse if you don’t spread it to 29 people…etc..
We HATE these friendship tests about `who’s reading my status’ and `copy this, leave 1 words etc.
NEWS FLASH.. facebook decides whom it shows your status updates to.. So fact is, probably less than 30% of your `friends’ see your status updates ..(the rest of your friends don’t even know you are testing them!!).
And of you were thinking that ..well…your friends should mark your account for `give me notifications’ – think again. We’ll be needing 36 hrs a day to catch up on all of our friends’ status updates.. and liking, sharing or responding to them all.. .and we will never go to work, never sleep, never have sex, never do gardening..never vote and so on..
So here’s the deal…Wise up people…STOP posting those silly tests….!
Post an actual silly joke ..or a video of a kitten licking a fur blanket…or a gif of a grass hopper jumping into a cup of Soup (sorry, don’t know where that came from…probably from the lawn).. those might actually get a response from your other friends.. !!
And if you – like me – are one who gets annoyed and feels torn and partially inclined to respond but don’t like to….well, here’s your salvation trick – You know how the USA & UK governments have a policy of non-compliance to any terrorist demands.. ? Well, adopt same policy for self.. Don’t oblige any Emotional Blackmailers!
And if you are a friend who – for whatever difficult life reasons – wants to test your friends… here’s a bit of advise..
Friends don’t test friendships!! If you do plan to, it is more likely that …your friends will unfriend you…if they are anything like me, who has that `non-negotiating with Blackmailers’ policy!!
Can you keep a Secret? Can you keep magic a secret? And when I say magic, I don’t mean illusions and tricks you see as part of a stage show (or a TV show). Those always have technical gimmickry to them – sleight of hands- where one hand distracts you while the other is working the trick, or smokes & mirrors! You get the picture.
When I say magic (and some purists like to use the word `magick’ with a `k’ at the end to differentiate), I mean the esoteric kind, the ritual type, the real psychic power of the mind, spells, witchy things, potions, hexes, curses, warts, eye of newt & leg of frog, venom of snake and.. (yes, poor things!) all that. Of course these days `ritual magicians’ (better word) don’t do all that animal sacrifices…Instead they do deep meditative works, self development of psychic abilities arrived at by months if not years of personal study, hard work and trial and error practises! The kind that I may or may not have or am practising.. supposedly! :-p
Back when I was a small boy in the 3rd world country of Sri Lanka, (formerly Ceylone during the British Occupation), I used to read those comics – Adventures of Mandrake the Magician. Created by Lee Falk in 1943 (who also created The Phantom Ghost who walks), Mandrake uses his legendary powers of hypnotism and illusion to combat crime. (But he also had `real’ psychic abilities which he used from time to time). With his companion Lothar, an African strongman, he fought evildoers ranging from gangsters to masters of disguise to aliens. He also had a twin brother who used his power for evil instead of good.
And there is one thing that Mandrake the Magician often says as a catchphrase when people ask him about how he managed certain things.. “A Magician never reveals his secrets!!”
Well, I also used to read (if you are interested), Tarzan the Ape Man, Phantom the Ghost Who walks, Flash Gordon space hero.. And look how those have shaped my adult life.. All of those have woven into serious (!) aspects of my growth (!!). I have a degree in Physics and avidly learn about space, time and quantum physics; I run an outdoor tribal ritual group called Hern’s Tribe; I campaign for many causes (my battles against evil), and I may or may not be a practicing ritual magician..!
Back to magic!
Within the last decade, there came the BBC saturday night series for family viewing.. a retelling of the `early years’ of Merlin the Magician (British mythical person who supposedly lived at the time of the legendary King Arthur). This TV series showed a young Merlin coming to live in Camelot.. where Magic was banned under pain of death.. a Camelot where Arthur was still a Prince. So Merlin kept his budding powers and practices of Magic a secret!
And the tag line when BBC launched the series was..of course.. “Keep the Magic Secret..!”
Okay so those are comics and TV shows.. Well, aren’t they?
If you ask any serious ritual magicians, (and again, don’t go thinking that I am one.. I may or may not be one.. ), they will tell you.. there is some power and empowerment in holding secrets..especially the deeper practises of ritual or ceremonial magic itself. Why? well a) it has to do with the power of the mind.. which requires focus and development and it can not happen if people keep prodding it.. b) secrecy keeps the practitioner safe.. as it did of many witches who during the witch trials of medieval times.. and c) in modern days, this secrecy avoids any possible negative perceptions and judgemental or prejudiced behaviour by other people – like employers, co-workers, some family & friends, people of certain religions and so on.
In this day and age where we write (blogs like this) about magic, write books, create youtube videos, give talks or workshops, appear in TV shows / interviews / documentaries (most of which I may or may not have done) and tell people – keeping our magical practices secretive can be very very hard indeed.
It is often a balance of wanting to share knowledge, skills, expertise, to help people, aid them in their own personal development, or self-healing – against keeping our own safety and privacy!
So people – who like to share what they know with others – struggle with this balance.
So if you are one of those good wise souls who wishes to share and help others, but like to preserve your privacy or safety, what do you do? do you keep the magic secret?
Not quite! You hide it in plain sight!! Perhaps..!!!
After all, isn’t that what Gerald Gardner – father of modern Wicca & Witchcraft did,,, back in early 1950’s, while Witchcraft was still illegal by law? Did he not write it all in a fiction adventure story called `High Magic’s Aid’? And when the Witchcraft Act (law) was repealed in UK, Gardner openly started to share about wicca. He was not the only one.. Others who have written about serious magic in fiction-form include Dion Fortune (her famous `Sea Priestess’ book which by sheer coincidence seems to contain so many of the Invocations and such now used by initiated Wiccans..).
But hiding in plain sight is not a luxury for people who have already declared themselves to be Practitioners of ritual or ceremonial Magic – for google remembers everything..and so do people – who copy and save online pictures, articles, web links.. and blog or put status updates ..about what they know! All these can be brought back…in weeks, months or years time ! Your revelations, once provided, can never be buried!
So what is the best way forward?
Selective revelations! In certain groups, forums, platforms – where there is a higher ratio of genuinely interested and sympathetic people.. people who will learn from you, but preserve and protect your privacy and safety..
That leads me to another blog on a topic of epic seriousness.. Who can we trust in this great big wide world of Magic?? Stay tuned..! (or subscribe to my blogs)
The only time fate allows us the luxury of learning lessons at our beck n call is when we are in our school years.. After that, lessons come whether we are ready or not..- not because we want them – but because Fate decrees that we need them …. to grow! It’s never punishment..even though it often feels that way. It’s mother nature trying to ready us and steady us for future journeys to come..
We are heading towards an intense astrological aspect involving Uranus & Pluto.
Last year (March 2013) I wrote a blog post called `Cybergod Cometh- What lurks within the World Wide Web’ . It was an amusing conjecture mixed with a sort of humour that I posses which few seem to get (unless people are used to the kind of dialoguing that the late Issac Asimov- father of Robotic Laws, and Russell T Davies – previous show runner of the `new’ Doctor Who – cos my style somewhat started similar to theirs).
Imagine when I got this very abusive, highly patronising response from some random person out there in the internet!! Well, the point of a blog IS to touch those random people out there …But his post was just plain ridiculous. I sat on it for ages.. It was so clear that he was so full of his own self-importance, that he failed to grasp the finer points of blog posting.. that we can express our thoughts, ideas, facts, figures or just anything. What he also seem to have not paid attention to ..was my credentials – I have a Physics Degree, I am a Pagan Priest with quite a bit of spiritual depth, I do science-fiction fantasy both fiction and artworks!!
So anyway, as I am declutetring, deleting old drafts and such.. I thought I;d actually share that lunatic’s abusive post – with its infinite number of spelling mistakes and drivel.. I have no doubt he was actually projecting his own ego-wanking onto me, rather than make a sensible response to my amused blog post. (Oh..did I just insult him? How unprofessional of me 🙂
So, here’s the precious contribution from him.. (an exact `cut n paste’ copy) so you can enjoy his woks and have a light relief.
“…….Are you aware of what some of us actually talks about at all, and beside, this childish rubbings of idiotic notions on issues you aparently dont know mutch about.
This article and you comment just underlines the lack of anything basicly, atleats the ability to think, outside the box, can you handle it.
This is what I putt inot the coscious equation against probbalilitys/posibillity. The zero feild theory, and this site complelty parks the old dogmans and belife in the utterly simple Einstins mechanical world, where a bullet is all you have. The old theory dont even come clse to this, witch I faind fare more accurate and describse the issue beyound what I have read for Years.
And beside, this drivel may impress yyour mother, but not me.
Do you know why I fand the shitt showelling is hillarious, and whats even wurse, the crittics are based on and comming from people not even knowing what the f… some of us are talking about, you have no f… clue.
I was intending to be polite, but I forgott it, sorry but when new ideas are introduced, be shure that you actually know what you know your self, then talk. To me qurious is good, this is just premature ejaqulation of oral smapms.
Some of us..yes the real people..you and me.. we face our own darkness, shadows and demons..every single day.
Echoes of the dead, fears of the future, burdens of the past, failed promises, lost hopes, unfulfilled dreams and desires. Yes, those shadows.!
Anger, pain, despair and depressions – that darkness!!
Battles between wants for justice & vengeance, needs of the self and the selfless – those Demons!!!
And we get bombarded with gimmicks and promises, demands and commands..
Autumn and Winter are coming. I say..slow it all down.. forget a little of the atrocities out there .. draw apart a bit into your selves.. and evoke your own Spirit ..and the inner-child.. the silent one that’s suffering in the dark.. and take him or her for a happy walk.
Protect him /her from all the adult problems and projections of the outside world.
Because, no one in this entire universe can do this for your inner-child..what only you the grown-up adult can do..
So, as we go into darkness, forget Gods and Angels, Spirits of whatever that is wherever, and just.. light a guiding path for the child within!
Yes, it’s been a month since my last blog post.. much has been happening in my life, that somehow, writing regular blogs seem to have fallen off the agenda.
My sincere apologies.. I write astrology forecasts…not to make a name for myself.. not to earn ..but to spread a kind of general esoteric hope ..for anyone who is having a difficult time.. or is in need of looking forward to things in life.. so it’s something I really should carry on.. But sadly, at times, I myself lack that very hope.. and end up in the pits of darkness and despair – and have to find my own way back to light again.. And during those phases, I am not in a place to help others..
The last few months have been that way- if you had not already noticed the erratic blogging. Infact the last year has been that way..perhaps longer.
In some forthcoming blogs, I will be ..not just sharing some of my `real’ personal plights and resulting insights, but I promise to `get real’ – and start tackling all the things I have meant to write about..but never could.. – why?
Fear of being misunderstood. Fear of revealing too much personal things. Fear of being rejected. Fear of not being accepted. Fear of exposing other people’s woes and worries…their privacies..secrets and all that.
But without risk, there is no progress.. So I will be breaking my own rules…and talk about some things.. in the hope that it gives anyone reading these…hope! Insight.. Faith.. well, not about my life.. (that too)..but about their own lives.
Okay.. so yesterday’s astrology –
Yesterday 1) Mercury sextiled Mars
2) Mercury sextiled Saturn
3) Venus trined Uranus
4) Mars conjunct Saturn..
Now all those aspects are what we call `good, positive’.. Interestingly.. Mars & Saturn are in the powerful, probing, deeply intense sign of Scorpio (death and rebirth, transformation)..
Mars provides the sharp tools, Saturn is highlighting stability & structures… old forms even.. and lessons..
Mercury is in the earthy sign of Virgo now..and Venus in the firey sign of Leo. Uranus in Aries..
If I stop to think, I could analyse this and write a 10 page essay..That’s how much was going on.. Let’s not forget the New moon in Virgo too.
Intuition tells me..it was an important few days..! Crazily, no one is immune from the influence of stars and planets..not even astrologers..
It seems the advanced knowledge of it is kept away from those for whom the process needs to happen..
That’s not much of a forecast (well, it’s not..as it;s already happened). And its not much of an analysis either..is it?
I am sorry ..
But know that it’s stirred up energies and forces that are going to make things better..
GT getting better.. It’s continuing to gain international readership and contributions and I am proud of that!
And this issue – with its gold cover title marks the 3rd Birthday of Gaian Times as a Registered not-for-profit Company. Yes we got it started back in February 2011! The actual first GT magazine was published online in June 2011. So we’ll have a big Celebration then – in London – if you can make it!!
As this GT#10 issue comes to you, there is a Conference taking place in London, hosted by Prince Charles and the Prime Minister of United Kingdom, bringing together 50 of the world leaders – for the purpose of taking serious action to stop illegal Wildlife trading! We are hoping it’s going to be more than just talk!
Am thrilled to have contributions from Aurelia Anyika (Keyan origins), whom I met at the last `Peaceful protest outside Chinese Embassy in London (to urge China to stop Ivory trade!). Aurelia is a fellow activist and Eco-Campaigner, passionate and serious- and I look forward to reading more of her work!
We also have Lisa Du Fresne starting a new column in Gaian Times, called Animal Communications (she’s writing from Canada)! And Renard (Richard) Fox writes from America, about the Druid Path, and shares a poem too!
In case you are wondering, Gaian Times is not all about animals. It’s about people too. And following on from my report of the London’s Erotica festival (GT issue#9), am very glad to be covering SAFE – the Safety network for people who work in the sex industry (Standards Against Female Exploitation). Angela Belassie has been kind enough to provide the feature with various facts and even a case study.
There is also a feature on the Psychology & Counselling Support being provided for people in cardiff, and Bristol, in our `Talk of the Bay’ feature.
Of course we’ve just had Valentine’s day.. So we have not just the photo of `Canada’s Sweetheart’ Angela La Muse, but she has so kindly answered some of my questions, and provided professionally taken photos of her – just for GT. (yes, me going to Canada to do a photo shoot with her just was taking too long!)
Vathani Navasothy writes about giving an MOT for your love relationships (she’s a Professional qualified Counselor of almost 24 years, and one of the founding members of Gaian Times!)
Next issue is out just before Earth Day – by mid-April! It’ll also cover all the esoteric excitements of the Beltane festivities, and more chit-chats on Love, marriages and relationships!
Here’s a list on contents..to tempt you further..
The Muse that got away from London- An interview with Miss Angela La Muse- Canada’s Burlesque Artist
An Ode to Rinpoche. The Buddhist Lama who started the first centre in UK.
Counseling & Community Features
MOT for your Romantic Relationships – Counselling Column by Vathani Navasothy
SAFE: Standards Against Female Exploitation. Info, Case Study & Sex Industry / users Survey results
Talk in the Bay – How Cardiff is leading the way in offering Counselling for people with Depression.
Eco (good) NEWS Corner
US bans Ivory Trade in ts borders
India declares Dolphins as `non-human person’
Shell scraps 2014 Arctic drilling Plans
London Hosts Anti-Wildlife Trading Conference
Protests & Campaigns
Kill the Ivory Trade – Action for Elephants Uk protestors outside Chinese Embassy in London
Stopping illegal Wildlife Trading & African local realities – Aurelia on the demo outside conference in London
Esoteric Events (Feb-April)
Isis Navigatum ritual;
Spring Equinox- Hern’s Tribe;
One Spirit- Drum, Dance & Full moon Ecstatic Dancing Events (monthly)
Pagan Federation Spring Equinox
Druid spring Equinox
Meteor Watch 2014- dates for 2014 and event details; Tips on Observing meteors; Tips on Photographing shooting stars!
To be a Druid – An American Fire Druid’s thoughts
The Return of the Dawn- Druidic poetry
Wiccan Full moon rituals in London
Animal Communications – new GT column by Lisa Du Fresne (from Canada)
Spells for protection of all Wildlife – Ivoking Cernunnos Lord of the Beasts.
Equation of Reality – Is this where Magic & Science meet? Mani Navasothy – Physics Graduate & WIccan High Priest bemuses.
Elephantom Origins- Mani speaks about the cartoon cause!
Fan reaction to Doctor Who 50th anniversary Movie
Speeches at Protest outside Chinese Embassy
Fashion & Entertainment:
Time Lord turns 50! Doctor Who celebration in over 80 countries;
DrWho Imaginarium- Flming our own fan series in London (get involved)
Eating Disorders!! What do you know about them? Are you a secret sufferer? Do you know anyone who is? What if someone you know is suffering but you don’t know?
Now..it might seem a bit odd me promoting this stuff.. How exactly is it pagan, magical or esoteric? Well, food is something that `affects’ everyone.. including esoteric people.. For ages (years) in our esoteric ritual gatherings, I try to encourage people to bring home cooked food, or even seasonal food.. Many say what you put in your body is what affects your heath – spiritually, energetically..
I know people who only just eat fruit!! (you can see their article in Gaian Times!).. I know people who have had to surgically have parts of their intestine removed.. and have to `eject’ their waste via a small tube..!
So..it’s all relevant.. !
Some years ago, I was helping to type up the notes of a book my sister (Specialist in this field) was writing.. and as a result I had read hundreds of pages of info on it (well, the draft book)..I even illustrated all the graphics and art work for it.. !
So when I see malnourished people, I quietly but unobtrusively do a double take..and wonder..
I myself have some pretty bad eating habits.. I don’t eat my meals on time.. I eat very late at night.. have way too much coffee..I eat junk food.. and suffer from time to time with IBS (That’s Irritable Bowel Syndrome), Constipations, Indigestions, heartburns.. bloated stomachs…and now with increasing food allergies – I can’t even eat some of the fruits I used to enjoy.. like peaches, pears, and few others..
These are all mild.. compared to the serious problems other Sufferers face.
We are talking about anorexia, Bulimia, obesity, food phobias and more!
With all that in mind.. I like to promote this invaluable help. Here are the details.
– Mani Navasothy
In aid of the Eating Disorder Awareness Week 23rd February – 1st March 2014, two free Webinars , Twitter Chat, LIVE Google Hangouts & free 1-2-1 /family Consultations are being offered.
Open to friends, family and sufferers of eating disorders .
Are you getting aggressive in relationships? Social situations…in the company of certain people? Here are some thoughts.. that might help you.. (cos we all like someone else to say, `it’s okay’ to us sometimes) 🙂
Passion is one thing.. but when some people are eliciting certain aggressions in you ..more often than not.. there are possibly two and only two things at play –
a) it’s stirring your shadows..
b) they are neither like-minded nor compatible with you.
So what’s this stirring shadow business? Well, the actions or statements those people make are making you angry, because it’s a suppressed part of you.. and rather than accept that `dark’ area in you, it’s easier to get angry at or even hate that other person!
One way forward is to look deeper at your self.. privately…just you, yourself and you! And admit (at the very least) those issues and suppressions you have…and figure out a way to deal with it.. either let loose (if it’s not harming anyone), integrate into conscious mind, seek external support/ therapy etc.
Now if you are not ready to work on your Shadows, that’s your prerogative.. Dealing with it in your own time is fine and don’t let others force you into a schedule or an agenda! (That’s just bound to get you worked up even more ..right? )
But ask the question, if it is more about the not being like-minded or incompatibility, and you are always having to compromise or worse sacrifice your own needs/wants, (which would just create inner resentment and builds up aggression).. why put up with a thorn in your paw..? (ie why keep that person(s) in your life? That is just masochism..! It’s even possibly linked to all sorts of low-self-worth issues, self-esteem, lack of confidence, disempowered states, co-dependency and such.. (all very deep and complex areas…and deserve more exploration than a few lines here..!)
Just take out the thorn from your paw, and get on with a peaceful life!!