Hi readers, I got to thinking, that for a guy who tags a number of blogs under Wicca & Witchcraft – and specifically the psychology, I haven’t really said much on those subjects…and yet, it’s those very realms that my everyday mind is occupied with. I found this write-up I had done for one of the modules of the e-Witch Apprentice course. -Mani
We each have an inner-child within us. It is a permanent psychological aspect of each one of us that stays with us forever. The inner child stems from our own childhood days and experiences, and he/ she does not grow! People may think that because it’s a `child’ within us, he/ she is powerless, and harmless. This is true on some level, but not in the way many of us think!
As with any child on this planet, an inner child is powerless – to fend for him/ herself, and protect him/ herself. But an inner-child is not to be under-estimated as one having no power. On the contrary, our inner-child has more power `over’ us than any other being on the planet! The personality and character of the inner-child can at times over-whelming and all-consuming! The whims and tantrums that our inner-child throws can quite easily take over us and control our actions and emotions. Effectively, it’s as if the Inner-child is the driver of the adult-person!!
Our needs for security, for love, for warmth, food – and for our mothers all stem from the Inner-child in us. And so does our need and want for play! And what’s more, our very creativity stems from the inner-child.
The inner-child does not care about time-tables, schedules, work-loads, deadlines, career progressions, relationships (except one with `The mother’), honour, commitment, altruism or ideals. He or she just is – pure need, pure base emotions, and pure joy! Eat, drink, sleep & play are his or her only modes, and the inner-child does not even have self-awareness, or self-identification. He or she is a pure creature of nature!!
One of the major aspects that govern an inner child is that he/ she – just like any child – has an identity liked and intertwined with the Mother. When his or her needs are met, he / she is happy and engages in play, and when those needs return, he/ she instinctively wants/ needs and seeks The Mother. And if the mother engages and fulfils those needs (food, company, warmth, affection), then the Mother is `seen’ as `Good Mother’. And if the mother does not seem to be fulfilling those needs – when the inner-child wants it (prompt), then the Mother is seen as `bad Mother’.
Mothers can quite quickly go from being `good mother’ to bad mother’ – in seconds, depending on how they did or did not fulfil the inner-child. And of course, if one person is fulfilling the inner-child, then that person – male or female `becomes’ the `good mother’, and elsewhere, another person who did not fulfil the needs of the Inner-child becomes `bad-mother’.
These psychological constructs are projected into our everyday interactions and relationships. It is not the scope of this brief introduction to go into details, but needless to say, how we as adults relate to people, leaders, authority figures, lovers, spouses, and even our Gods & Goddesses – are all so intricately tied into the Inner-child.
Knowing `thy self’ is a process, by which, we learn to separate the needs and whims of the inner child away from our `adult’ self, as well as other key considerations (projections, shadows, anima/ animus etc).
In this e-witch Course, we include various practical work and exercises – some of which may seem bizarre and `childish’. However they are not designed for you the adult – and they are aimed at your inner-child!! For we have learnt through much study, counselling and personal magical experiences – that creativity and true magic flows from the purest of all humans – the child in us!
It is the responsibility of us – the grown-up adults, to become the `good mother’ to our own inner-children, and care, comfort and protect. When those are taken care of, and when we let ourselves play freely, we begin to tap into primal forces of magic!!
(c)Mani Navasothy. 22Feb2012
Acknowledgement: Much of these concepts were taught to me by the late Maureen Brown, Counselor & High Priestess of Wicca. I shall give her due respect in another blog entry.