Category Archives: Relationships

The Facebook Friendship Test (Don’t do it!)

The FRIENDSHIP TEST on FACEBOOK: (aka The EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL).

This sort of thing does the rounds..like gypsies selling their aluminium wrapped paper flower and asking for money, or chain letters that say God & Angels saved them but will curse if you don’t spread it to 29 people…etc..

We HATE these friendship tests about `who’s reading my status’ and `copy this, leave 1 words etc.

facebook friendship test (c) Mani Navasothy 2015
facebook friendship test (c) Mani Navasothy 2015

NEWS FLASH.. facebook decides whom it shows your status updates to.. So fact is,  probably less than 30% of your `friends’ see your status updates ..(the rest of your friends don’t even know you are testing them!!).

And of you were thinking that ..well…your friends should mark your account for   `give me notifications’ – think again.  We’ll be needing 36 hrs a day to catch up on all of our friends’ status updates..  and liking, sharing or responding to them all.. .and we will never go to work, never sleep, never have sex, never do gardening..never vote and so on..

So here’s the deal…Wise up people…STOP posting those silly tests….!

Post an actual silly joke ..or a video of a kitten licking a fur blanket…or a gif of a grass hopper jumping into a cup of Soup (sorry, don’t know where that came from…probably from the lawn).. those might actually get a response from your other friends.. !!

And if you – like me – are one who gets annoyed and feels torn and partially inclined to respond but don’t like to….well, here’s your salvation trick –   You know how the USA & UK governments have a policy of non-compliance to any terrorist demands..  ?   Well, adopt same policy for self..   Don’t oblige any Emotional Blackmailers!

And if you are a friend who – for whatever difficult life reasons – wants to test your friends…   here’s a bit of advise..

Friends don’t test friendships!!    If  you do plan to, it is more likely that …your friends will unfriend you…if they are anything like me, who has that `non-negotiating with Blackmailers’ policy!!

-Mani Navasothy

On Love, Loss & Life (Or `how Life imitates Art that we create!’)

“Have you loved, loved someone or something so dearly ..and lost?..” So begins the monologue – something I wrote ..about 11 months ago…at a time when I was nursing my own broken heart.

The lines were for The Doctor – now in a female form, in a minisode that I wrote, directed, filmed and produced. It stars my friend Sandra Tena (published Writer, originally from Mexico) as the  world famous wanderer in Time and Space. I think, at the time, Sandra too was hiding an aching heart..    It was a case of two people with similar pains coming together to create art!  (Sandra and I are just friends, and remain so..  in case you were wondering..)

DrWho Love Loss & Life
Scene from DrWho Minisode `Love, Loss & Life’

 

The minisode was filmed by the Docklands area in London, way back in January of this year (2014)…but we only aired it on 23rd August (same day as when Peter Capaldi’s new Doctor Who episode aired on BBC TV).   Technically, that’s the launch date of `our’ own Fan video series…but full episodes are coming in January 2015 (we just finished filming all 7 stories).

So back to Love then.

I thought about the kind of pain that The Doctor might be feeling..about always loving people..and then loosing them to the passing of time…watching them age and die, or get killed..  or just them giving it up and leaving the life inside the TARDIS.    Yes, we’ve seen many glimpses of this sadness that the Doctor contains…and he does contain it..  (how could he not…he’s lived over 2,000 years old..    If he did let it sink too much..his heart will break..  both of them..   Well, I put that line in there too..  🙂

Sandra brought a real sense of inner vulnerability to that minisode when we filmed it..

And of course, a few days later, she was leaving London…and heading back to Mexico.. In a way that was a bit sad too..

But it gets better 🙂

She left some of her suitcases with me in London for safe keeping..  And she came back to London in July..   and we filmed many more episodes… And guess what…she found Love.. !  And guess a bit more-    she found love with another friend of mine..   a guy who was also in my Doctor Who fan production..by the name of Stephen Cole..   (An actor who lives in Glastonbury..)  And go on..guess once more..   they met `on the set’  during our filming of his Doctor Who story (yes, we have two Doctors!).  And they `got together on `International Peace Day’ ..That was back in September’14.

I hear they are moving in together in 2015.. and going forward in life..  so good happy news..

Well there’s more to it..   Sometimes, when some hearts mend, other hearts get broken..   and that’s life too..  I think another friend of mine ended up with a heart ache..  But wait..  the other friend found love again..  So it’s all okay!!  Honest!!  🙂

As for me..   well..  looking back at my own last 2 years ..I wonder if `Am a good man?’  I  think I am  a fallen Angel..  or a rising Demon..  Am never sure.  Broken hearts can create all sorts of turmoils..and personality shifts..  make one bitter, depressed, reclusive, unable to go forward or backwards..   (well, isn’t this a joy…Actually it is to those who follow my blogs..  I rarely write about my personal life..  and often keep to just being astrological, spiritual and all that… So here you get a glimpse…And why ever not…It’s the last day..of 2014…the `Year of I’mPossible Dreams’  that I set off back in January..   How many of those became possible..am not sure..     )

All I can say is…my story is still unfolding..    and am sure a travelling Companion will walk into my TARDIS…I mean my life.. at some point.. Well, for that to happen, I need a TARDIS first…   And seeing I partially built one years ago..and then got fed up and burnt most of it..   Yes, I have plans to build a new TARDIS…both the inside console room..and the outside Blue Box..

Then a Companion can accidentally walk into it..  I’ll make sure the door is unlocked..and kept open..  Doors..?  Hearts… TARDIS?  Life?  All same thing..   Have you not figured it out..?  Did you think just  am not talking transpersonal psychology today? Why would I stop doing that??   🙂

Have you had a dream  or two..or hundreds…of a box, a bed, a room, a ship, a car, a hut or a house?  It’s all you..you  ..you..  symbolically..!  well, same here… Yeap, Psychology ya see!

Meanwhile..    watch this minisode…It’s Brilliant and bitter sweet..  I should know..  I wrote what I felt.. and I know that parts of those tears in her eyes were not acting at all..

-Mani Navasothy  (Executive Producer / Director/ Lead writer)

Doctor Who Imaginarium Fan Productions

London
31s December 2014

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Minisode Info:

Doctor Who Imaginarium Fan productions  presents..  starring Sandra Tena as The Doctor in `Love Loss and Life’.

Written, Directed, filmed & edited by Mani Navasothy.
Filmed on location in the Docklands area of London (in January 2014).
This minisode is a character piece that explores the pain and anguish of love lost.. especially for a Time Lady!
Enjoy the minisode.. Our full run of stories start in 2015, with a Prelude called `Lucifer’s Legacy’, and first full story, `Dragons of London’  and then `Shaman’s Game’.

We already have 7 stories to tell..ranging from the final days of the Dark Times of Gallifrey (That wasn’t even its name then).. to raging Cyberman wanting the God Upgrade..and old foes playing with The Doctor’s soul itself.. !! And another thing.. One of those Doctors is not Who he appears to be..!

Doctor Who (c) BBC. TARDIS (c) BBC.

No copyright breach intended. This is an entirely non-profit fan production..by fans for fans..just for fun!!

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Links

Doctor Who Imaginarium – website

Sandra Tenna’s Books on Amazon (in Spanish)

Inkwells & Daydreams – Sandra’s professional blogs

Sandra’s personal blogs – That Voice in my Head

 

When is your Darkest Hour?

Our Darkest Hour is..

Darkest Hour & Ligjt Within (c) Mani Navasothy Dec2014

I’ll be writing more on this .. and share some of my insights..on how to deal with those hard moments.

Bright Wishes

-Mani Navasothy

Life is a Spiral – not a Circle (motivational)

Life is a Spiral (c)ManiNavasothy2014
Life is a Spiral      art (c) Mani Navasothy 2014

Life is not a circle..but a spiral.

Cycles seem to come around, same things seem to repeat..but each time we are moving slightly up or down in progress.. and each time, we should try to do things slightly different, to see if energies and life shifts to better states..

At times, others may try to keep us in the same spot, or collapse our life from a spiral to a circle.. Not letting that happen is also hard work.. (in other words, letting people’s expectations and projections getting the better of us..).

Its hard enough each of us having to work on our own shadows, issues and projections.

So let’s make it easy on one another..

Life is not a Circle. Life is a spiral..

Let’s keep moving ..from the deep subconscious prompts onwards and upwards to our higher selves ..

-Mani Navasothy

 

Yesterday’s Heavens (and Personal fears of a blogger)

Well, hello there! 🙂

Yes, it’s been a month since my last blog post..   much has been happening in my life, that somehow, writing regular blogs seem to have fallen off the agenda.

My sincere apologies..   I write astrology forecasts…not to make a name for myself..  not to earn   ..but to spread a kind of general esoteric hope ..for anyone who is having a difficult time..  or is in need of looking forward to things in life..  so it’s something I really should carry on..  But sadly, at times, I myself lack that very hope.. and end up in the pits of darkness and despair – and have to find my own way back to light again..   And during those phases, I am not in a place to help others..

The last few months have been that way- if you had not already noticed the erratic blogging. Infact the last year has been that way..perhaps longer.

In some forthcoming blogs, I will be ..not just sharing some of my `real’ personal plights and resulting insights, but I promise to `get real’ – and start tackling all the things I have meant to write about..but never could..   – why?

Fear!

Fear of being misunderstood. Fear of revealing too much personal things.  Fear of being rejected.  Fear of not being accepted.  Fear of exposing other people’s  woes and worries…their privacies..secrets and all that.

But without risk, there is no progress..  So I will be breaking my own rules…and talk about some things..  in the hope that it gives anyone reading these…hope!  Insight..   Faith..    well, not about my life..  (that too)..but about their own lives.

Okay..  so yesterday’s astrology  

Yesterday 1) Mercury sextiled Mars

2) Mercury sextiled Saturn

3) Venus trined Uranus

4) Mars conjunct Saturn..

Now all those aspects are what we call `good, positive’.. Interestingly.. Mars & Saturn are in the powerful, probing, deeply intense sign of Scorpio (death and rebirth, transformation)..

Mars provides the sharp tools, Saturn is highlighting stability & structures… old forms even.. and lessons..

Mercury is in the earthy sign of Virgo now..and Venus in the firey sign of Leo. Uranus in Aries..

If I stop to think, I could analyse this and write a 10 page essay..That’s how much was going on.. Let’s not forget the New moon in Virgo too.

Intuition tells me..it was an important few days..! Crazily, no one is immune from the influence of stars and planets..not even astrologers..

It seems the advanced knowledge of it is kept away from those for whom the process needs to happen..

That’s not much of a forecast (well, it’s not..as it;s already happened).  And its not much of an analysis either..is it?

I am sorry ..  

But know that it’s stirred up energies and forces that are going to make things better..

I shall write again..soon.

Love n hugs to all..

-Mani Navasothy

Be Loved..! (A Beltane Blessing)

“I thought you You loved me..!” I heard her screech, as I got closer.  She was in tears, and so was the guy walking besides her. It was long past midnight, and they were walking along a woody path, in pouring rain.

After a wonderful Earth day Picnic & Eco-Ceremony in Trent park, I was returning home. I had got the last bus from Modern, and still had a 10 minute walk – along a quiet path with trees on either sides and past a fat flowing stream.   The couple walking infront of me must have got off from the same bus..  and I heard occassional loud screeches from the distance. It’s only when I got closer (I walk fast) that I realised they were having some sort of an emotional exchange. It seemed that he was not there at a particular event or place, and she had had a bad experience.  All I could hear was silence and sobbing from him and few softly spoken words.

As I over took them, there was only one thought in my mind.

We all – you, me and everyone – want to be loved!  (Is that why we call some people in our lives, `Beloved..’? 🙂

Beltane Blessings - Lord and Lady (c) Mani Navasothy 2014
Beltane Blessings – Lord and Lady (c) Mani Navasothy 2014

And when we do, it puts us on top of the world!!  And we are not, we are in hell..  !!

So, with whatever energy I had left of the wonderful Earth Day event, I spread a bit of magic their way – that they shall feel loved. And as I walked further, it came to me – that it’s a pretty good spell to cast on the whole world.

So on this Beltane Day, with the images of the Lord and Lady I caught in the flames last night, I wish you all fulfilment of Love.

Be Loved..

Bright Blessings

-Mani Navasothy

ps. The image at the centre is a real photograph..  one of about 200 I took of the flames..   and I saw so many shapes ..and this one seem to show a lady on the left and a lord on the right 🙂  It seemed the perfect one to share on my 400th blog post. 🙂

Gaian Times eco-spiritual e-Magazine #10 out now

 GT getting better..   It’s continuing to gain international readership and contributions and  I am proud of that!

And this issue – with its gold cover title marks the 3rd Birthday of Gaian Times as a Registered not-for-profit Company. Yes we got it started back in February 2011!  The actual first GT magazine was published online in June 2011. So we’ll have a big Celebration then – in London – if you can make it!!

Gaian Times e-magazine issue#10. 10 Feb2014 www.GaianTimes.com
Gaian Times e-magazine issue#10. 10 Feb2014   http://www.GaianTimes.com

As this GT#10 issue comes to you, there is a Conference taking place in London, hosted by Prince Charles and the Prime Minister of United Kingdom, bringing together 50 of the world leaders – for the purpose of taking serious action to stop illegal Wildlife trading!   We are hoping it’s going to be more than just talk! 

Am thrilled to have contributions from Aurelia Anyika (Keyan origins), whom I met at the last `Peaceful protest outside Chinese Embassy in London (to urge China to stop Ivory trade!).  Aurelia is a fellow activist and Eco-Campaigner, passionate and serious- and I look forward to reading more of her work!

We also have Lisa Du Fresne starting a new column in Gaian Times, called Animal Communications (she’s writing from Canada)!  And Renard (Richard) Fox writes from America, about the Druid Path, and shares a poem too!

In case you are wondering, Gaian Times is not all about animals. It’s about people too.  And following on from my report of the London’s Erotica festival (GT issue#9), am very glad to be covering SAFE – the Safety network for people who work in the sex industry (Standards Against Female Exploitation). Angela Belassie has been kind enough to provide the feature with various facts and even a case study.

There is also a feature on the Psychology & Counselling Support being provided for people in cardiff, and Bristol, in our `Talk of the Bay’ feature.

Of course we’ve just had Valentine’s day..  So we have not just the photo of `Canada’s Sweetheart’ Angela La Muse, but she has so kindly answered some of my questions, and provided professionally taken photos of her – just for GT.  (yes, me going to Canada to do a photo shoot with her just was taking too long!)

Vathani Navasothy writes about giving an MOT for your love relationships (she’s a Professional qualified Counselor of almost 24 years, and one of the founding members of Gaian Times!)

Next issue is out just before Earth Day – by mid-April!  It’ll also cover all the esoteric excitements of the Beltane festivities, and more chit-chats on Love, marriages and relationships!

Here’s a list on contents..to tempt you further..

People:

  • The Muse that got away from London- An interview with Miss Angela La Muse- Canada’s Burlesque Artist
  • An Ode to Rinpoche. The Buddhist Lama who started the first centre in UK.

Counseling & Community Features

  • MOT for your Romantic Relationships – Counselling Column by Vathani Navasothy
  • SAFE: Standards Against Female Exploitation. Info, Case Study & Sex Industry / users Survey results
  • Talk in the Bay – How Cardiff is leading the way in offering Counselling for people with Depression.

Eco (good) NEWS Corner

  • US bans Ivory Trade in ts borders
  • India declares Dolphins as `non-human person’
  • Shell scraps 2014 Arctic drilling Plans
  • London Hosts Anti-Wildlife Trading Conference

Protests & Campaigns

  • Kill the Ivory Trade – Action for Elephants Uk protestors outside Chinese Embassy in London
  • Stopping illegal Wildlife Trading & African local realities – Aurelia on the demo outside conference in London

Esoteric Events (Feb-April)

  • Isis Navigatum ritual;
  • Spring Equinox- Hern’s Tribe;
  • One Spirit- Drum, Dance & Full moon Ecstatic Dancing Events (monthly)
  • Pagan Federation Spring Equinox
  • Druid spring Equinox
  • Earth Hour;
  • Meteor Watch 2014- dates for 2014 and event details; Tips on Observing meteors; Tips on Photographing shooting stars!

Esoterica:

  • To be a Druid – An American Fire Druid’s thoughts
  • The Return of the Dawn- Druidic poetry
  • Wiccan Full moon rituals in London
  • Animal Communications – new GT column by Lisa Du Fresne (from Canada)
  • Spells for protection of all Wildlife – Ivoking Cernunnos Lord of the Beasts.
  • Equation of Reality – Is this where Magic & Science meet? Mani Navasothy – Physics Graduate & WIccan High Priest bemuses.

Video blogs:

  • Elephantom Origins- Mani speaks about the cartoon cause!
  • Fan reaction to Doctor Who 50th anniversary Movie
  • Speeches at Protest outside Chinese Embassy

 Fashion & Entertainment:

  • Time Lord turns 50! Doctor Who celebration in over 80 countries;
  • DrWho Imaginarium- Flming our own fan series in London (get involved)

Magical  Bookshops & Sites

  • Atlantis spiritual Centre (Enfield)-
  • Atlantis Bookshop – oldest occult shop in London
  • Spirit of Isis – Healing Centre in Waltham
  • Treadwells-London
  • Clearly Destiny –
  • Spirit of Isis – Healing centre,
  • Pagan Frontiers of London –

Go enjoy this GT#10 issue.

Best Wishes

-Mani Navasothy  (Editor / Director – Gaian Times)

February 2014, London, UK

go to magazine:   Gaian Times..

Pan & Aphrodite Chants – for some Valentine Love magic!

Love spells.. not something every seasoned Witch or magician admits to ..or even approves of. But it is something more or less any novice starting out in magic –   or even those who don’t do magic – will have tried – at some point or other! 🙂

Yes, you are not supposed to put a spell on the object (person) of your desires, and magically force them against their will, to fall in love with you!  That sort of thing is rather against the `rules’  (which does not mean you can’t break the rules and just do it anyway.. I mean who is watching?  The Magic police?  Your Guru?  God? Angels..?   Well, all of them probably! )

Leaving the politics out of this, lets see what you CAN do..  🙂   You can do a spell for love to find you..  or make yourself open to love..and new relationship..  you can ask for the blessings some of the Gods & Goddesses who watch and govern over this area.. of love & lust!

Yes, you read right..  lust too.  We are all ruled by our sexual desires..  and yet many hide it.   (That’s another topic for debate).

Pan & Venus - with Mars & venus joint symbols (c) Mani Navasothy 2014
Pan & Venus – with Mars & venus joint symbols (c) Mani Navasothy 2014

Few days ago, in our Woodland Wicca Circle (full moon, monthly), we did a themed ritual – and did a little bit of `love magic’.  I came up with some chants that were used to power-up and imbue pink candles with the energies of Aphrodite goddess of love and beauty, and Pan- woodland god of nature and lust!     So many people have been attracted to these two specific deities..  in so far as love is concerned.  But (warning)- in all mythologies, these two deities are often depicted as having many  love affairs and relationships – short term ones..  with gods and men, and even animals..(that’s Pan for you).

So it’s not quite the sort of deity I would personally pick for a love spell to find a life-long committed partner! But it is one I’d pick..for a titillating new relationship to come your way, or to open up the hearts that have lost the idea of free flowing and joys of loving, flirting, and sexual fulfilment. And if those lead to long term relationships, that’s all good..!

So..  the choice is yours!

This particular Valentine Day is astrologically special..  There is a full moon on that exact day..and it is in the sign of Leo.  Now full moons are known for frothing up a lot of feelings, increasing psychic awareness. Leo is a fire sign…one that is very generous, proud, leisure seeking, takes a risk / gamble.   So this heady mixture of full moon in Leo on a Valentine day is going to be one personal love storm being whipped up!

Tune in to that energy if you like..but be wise..and be safe!

Right then, here are those two chants..   How you can proceed is to hold  a candle in your hand, think of the deity and speak the chant over the candle..  put that energy into the candle..   Do this for both chants..thereby bringing both those energies in.

Pan Chant:

“Pan, Pan

Io Pan,

Pan, Pan, Pan

Woodland God

Horn-ed Beast

Come and join our Feast!”

Here is a the Venus / Aphrodite chant:

“Aphrodite from the Sea

Bring your love & joy to me.”

(or the group version)

“Venus, we love thee

Fill our hearts with glee..”

If you wish you can then carve a male-female symbol into the candle..for  uniting those energies..

Now have a think about what you want..  (and I am not putting any conditions or rules.. You can be the judge and moral compass of your own actions..). Now light a candle!  And let it do the magic!

Simple? Yes..  Magical.. At this time.. exceptionally so!

Love & Light wishes

-Mani Navasothy

My Links

An invitation: London Woodland Wicca Circle (monthly rituals)

website: Witchcraft, Wicca & Magic

Pagan events in London – Pagan Frontiers of  London

Wanna keep your friend on social network? Follow these etiquettes!!

Don’t you just get tired..  of accepting a `friend’ request..and within a minute (or a day, if you are lucky) you get a post or ten..from your `new’ friend..  a 3rd party link, a funny picture, a video, a joke, a poke, a product promotion, a `like my page’ request, an invite to play  a game..  buy a `really cool..must have App’ and so on?

Well, will you or them do that ..if they just met you in a party? in the streets? In a relative’s home? In a wedding?

Only Salesmen and saleswomen pull out their tricks of promotions and rewards…within 30 seconds of saying that first hello to you..  Time is money..and they work the averages..It’s a number game!

How friendships should work on facebook & social network (c) Mani Navasothy 2014
How friendships should work on facebook & social network (c) Mani Navasothy 2014

Well..what are YOU trying to achieve?   Build up an army of `friends’?    and when you do…who will you actually phone ..when say..you just had a car accident, or your heart just broke..or you just lost your pet tropical fish..or ..you just saw the girl/ guy  in the street and fell in love and must have friend support?

Social networking may have started in someone’s dorm.. a down to earth, human place..  of fun, flirts and study! But it’s now pushed and managed by marketing gurus and media moguls..

The more you like, share, post…more you are helping them to grow their empire..and bank balance!

And if you are trying to have a similar piece of the action..good luck..  it’s possible..  but that takes time.. and you ain’t gonna get `your empire’ up and growing..by spamming your new found friend..!!

So do the world a big nice thing..    follow these simple real life friendship building ways..  yes, on social networking too..  Behind those pixels, pictures, links, posts and pages..  there are real human people..  and some of them would like real friends…:-)

Well, I don;t know about you..but I do!   🙂

-Mani Navasothy

My blogs on related topics 

Internet safety tips to avoid spam

Cookies, an important notice about internet privacy

Syware & Adware…how to avoid falling to their traps

 

Shadows & Thorns – what’s making you aggressive?

Are you getting aggressive in relationships? Social situations…in the company of certain people? Here are some thoughts..  that might help you.. (cos we all like someone else to say, `it’s okay’ to us sometimes) 🙂

Passion is one thing.. but when some people are eliciting certain aggressions in you ..more often than not.. there are possibly two and only two things at play –

Shadow projections
Shadow projections

 

a) it’s stirring your shadows..

b) they are neither like-minded nor compatible with you.

So what’s this stirring shadow business?   Well,  the actions or statements those people make are making you angry, because it’s a suppressed part of you..  and rather than accept that `dark’ area in you, it’s easier to get angry at or even hate that other person!

One way forward is to look deeper at your self..   privately…just you, yourself and you!   And admit (at the very least) those issues and suppressions you have…and figure out a way to deal with it..    either let loose (if it’s not harming anyone), integrate into conscious mind, seek external support/ therapy etc.

Now if you are not ready to work on your Shadows, that’s your prerogative.. Dealing with it in your own time is fine and don’t let others force you into a schedule or an agenda!  (That’s just bound to get you worked up even more ..right? )

But ask the question, if it is more about the not being like-minded or incompatibility, and you are always having to compromise or worse sacrifice your own needs/wants, (which would just create inner resentment and builds up aggression)..  why put up with a thorn in your paw..?  (ie why keep that person(s) in your life?  That is just masochism..!  It’s even possibly linked to all sorts of low-self-worth issues, self-esteem, lack of confidence, disempowered states, co-dependency and such..  (all very deep and complex areas…and deserve more exploration than a few lines here..!)

Just take  out the thorn from your paw, and get on with a peaceful life!!

There are far more and better things to do.. !!

Best wishes on this friday!  🙂

-Mani Navasothy