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The Womb-world goeth! (part1)

Will you take the Red Pill or the Blue Pill?  Yes there are other pills too ..but these matter!!  What am I talking about?   If you remember the film The Matrix, you’ll know what I am talking about!  In the early moments of their encounter, Morpheus was saying to Neo in The Matrix.. take one of them and forget the truth..and go back to the false dream-like reality.. Take the other, and you wake up to reality.. and can never go back! He takes the right pill.. (never mind the colour)..accepts reality..  his body is unplugged..and rejected..ejected.. from the Matrix of fantasies..   and his real life begins (in a mixture of suffocation, loss, pain, slime, and struggles!)

Birth is hard!!

Happy option - infinity (c) Mani navasothy 2013
Happy option – infinity (c) Mani navasothy 2013

Though we are all born, and have been living in the World, so many are stuck in many `womb-worlds’ – clogged and cluttered by needs, dependencies, having signed away their freedom in order to loyally support an ideal, a country, allegiance to a flag, a football team, a tribe, an organisation, a group, a relationships, and so many other things..  !

Within the womb, the unborn child is in a state of total safety and security, but also dependency.  It has it’s every need taken care of..  warmth, food..and even a playmate!  Yes, that placenta ..the twin ..the Soul-mate of the unborn.. ! (And don’t we then spend the rest of our lives searching for that lost soul-mate..  the `someone’ who is missing!!)

But the moment the baby is born..  through the pain and pressure of birth canal..  from dark..through tunnel to a world of  sudden blinding light.  the the safe womb-world is lost!  Soul-mate is gone..  It has to go from being a quasi-reptilian, amphibian to an air-breathing being.. and wait to be fed.  No tubes..no more.. No food and oxygen on tap.. through the umbilical cord. No ready-made warmth of the womb. ..and no mother’s heart-beat ..that steady drum that has been in your ear..and permeating trough your whole body non-stop for a whole 9 months…gone!   (that’s why drum beats always affect us!!)

And the tunnel of pain and birth..  ah..you look for that too!   The passage of rejection from womb-world..  You search for it.. and hope you find it at the end of your days… at death..  the tunnell..leading to light!   Your memories got screwed up..  you equate the moment of birth into world of light..  through the mother’s vulva, as life after death..

womb-world-goeth (c) Mani Navasothy 2014
womb-world-goeth (c) Mani Navasothy 2014

Having been thrown out of Eden (womb), the inner child…is always looking for the pearly gates of vulva..to heaven…back to the sacred womb…!

To be born is hard..  It means you have to be 100% self-sufficient..  No twin. No food in tubes.  You have to breath! You have to open your eyes now..and look at a world of Light and dark..not just the dark of the womb!  You can not float anymore in that secure slosh of amniotic fluid!  You have to stand up..and walk!  Let your spin and muscles support..  !!

It also means you are free..  to make your choices..  to walk your path…choose the roads you can travel..  choose your destinations!

Take the Option now..  to be born!

No one likes a cry-baby (except mothering types).  No one likes a winge-bag (except the gossip-mongers and rumour-millers).

Stop looking for death..your body is dying since the moment of your birth..  but new cells are always growing to replace the dead ones..   At some point, that balance will shift.. But long before that, Live!!

Well.. I still haven’t talked about Infinity, and the quantum realities that you can manipulate..

That’s for another blog post 🙂

Happy New You!

-Mani Navasothy

ps. Thanks to the late Maureen Brown, Wiccan High Priestess, Psychologist, Professional Counsellor, mother of 3, and grandmother, friend to hundreds, and rebel to many….for introducing me to Womb-world.

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Dealing with Kangaroo Courts in your Personal Relationships..!

Have you been tried in emotionally charged Kangaroo Courts?  

When a bunch of people say they want to `clear the air’, call you to a friendly meeting in their home-grounds, beware that shadow pack-mentality is already in play behind the scenes, and their subconscious minds are looking for ways to hammer you into some sort of submissions. Sadly their minds are already projecting their own shadows on you..and it’s because you are `not accepting’ that they’ve become disgruntled suddenly.. They will keep looking to find behavioral evidence in you that proves they were right about you after all.  Anything and.. sadly everything you say..  will be taken as evidence against you..and used to prove only your guilt.   It’s a no-justice situation.. !

Question of intention:

Personal meetings start with best of intentions..or so it will seem  (groups of friends, in membership organisations, private family circumstances).  But the question is …do you or others want a real resolution, or are you all just gunning for someone’s guts under a pretense of `clearing the air’?

Transpersonal concepts to look up (if you really are interested)

  • Shadows
  • Ego & super-Ego
  • Projections and Projection Breaking
  • Transference  and Counter transference.

Initial advise:  

 a) Avoid meeting in their home-grounds. Neutral places are very important.  You need to feel safe and secure, as much as others!

 b) Starting states:  Are you are already starting with apprehensions, possibly a sense of persecution?  Except lawyers, no one goes in to such meetings without apprehensions.   Having a friend there is a good idea.

c) Are you a Chicken?    Beware goading tactics by others – your confidence or calm posture is the first things people tend to `attack’ (consciously or not).  Bombarding you with issues, bringing up real  vulnerable old issues are ways others can keep you off your balance.   `challenging you’ into a corner, ie asking if you can handle things or not (goading your ego) is another tactics lawyers and naturally clever people use ..

 d)  If one or more party declares they are not in a good emotional place (due to other factors) or tired from a long day of work etc..  have the common sense and decency to  postpone..especially if a postponement has been asked for.  Don’t then throw emotional manipulation and force the meeting to go ahead anyway!    Physical or emotionally tired situations bring out inner-child tantrums ..it’s grossly unfair and counter-productive to what you ALL are trying or hoping to achieve, and these meetings need to be between adults..not your inner-children..  Playground is best for kids.. not reconcilliation meetings!!

 e) During meeting, make sure all parties are seated in a balanced way…no one sitting on a higher chair or lower than others (believe me, that’s actually a clever disempowerment technique! )

 f) Find a neutral 3rd party `facilitator’ …not one who is involved in the situation, or has strong bonds with the others (or with you).    And when a `facilitator’ has no counselling or psychology training, and is the one self-appointed or appointed by the other parties, that is already a clouded objective situation..!

 g) Do not represent your self..   You simply can’t when you are in a highly charged emotional state..and what you say will only be used against you. Even hardcore criminals have lawful proper representations!

 h) When others star by saying, we are all friends / family here and this is not a confrontation but a chance to clear the air or resolve matters – don’t fall for that. They may mean well but human nature quickly takes over..and so does mud-slinging, tit-for-tat cleverness, bullying, reverse psychology, playing the victim, turning on the tears and so on. Unless you are God or a Saint, one tiny negative (even perceived) comment WILL evoke an internal defensive or retaliation reaction.  Those will simmer and work in your or their subconscious through out, and will seek expression – not immediately, but 5 minutes, 10mins, 2 hrs or even 5 months later!

 i) It is best to enter these `meetings’ with plenty of safeguards of neutrality, objectivity and arbitration..  There is huge potential for making matters worse!

 j) When someone keeps accusing another of a particular action, there is 50 – 50 chance that a) they are making a real observation   and/or  b) they are projecting their own `stuff’

k) `I hear you’ is not the same as `I understand’..  and `I understand’ stated in the heat of a meeting does not necessarily mean they or you do understand on an emotional level.   Thinking & Feeling are on opposite ends of the spectrum in Psychology!

l) Often a single meeting is never enough to get to the heart of issues. Time needs to pass for all to absorb what each other have said, and further meet-ups are required..

 

I shall look through my years of Counselling & Psychology training notes, and add more tips here later..

-Mani Navasothy

ps. Originally posted as a `Note’ in my facebook page.   Find me on facebook ..look for my page..   Mani Navasothy