Shadows & Thorns – what’s making you aggressive?

Are you getting aggressive in relationships? Social situations…in the company of certain people? Here are some thoughts..  that might help you.. (cos we all like someone else to say, `it’s okay’ to us sometimes) 🙂

Passion is one thing.. but when some people are eliciting certain aggressions in you ..more often than not.. there are possibly two and only two things at play –

Shadow projections

Shadow projections

 

a) it’s stirring your shadows..

b) they are neither like-minded nor compatible with you.

So what’s this stirring shadow business?   Well,  the actions or statements those people make are making you angry, because it’s a suppressed part of you..  and rather than accept that `dark’ area in you, it’s easier to get angry at or even hate that other person!

One way forward is to look deeper at your self..   privately…just you, yourself and you!   And admit (at the very least) those issues and suppressions you have…and figure out a way to deal with it..    either let loose (if it’s not harming anyone), integrate into conscious mind, seek external support/ therapy etc.

Now if you are not ready to work on your Shadows, that’s your prerogative.. Dealing with it in your own time is fine and don’t let others force you into a schedule or an agenda!  (That’s just bound to get you worked up even more ..right? )

But ask the question, if it is more about the not being like-minded or incompatibility, and you are always having to compromise or worse sacrifice your own needs/wants, (which would just create inner resentment and builds up aggression)..  why put up with a thorn in your paw..?  (ie why keep that person(s) in your life?  That is just masochism..!  It’s even possibly linked to all sorts of low-self-worth issues, self-esteem, lack of confidence, disempowered states, co-dependency and such..  (all very deep and complex areas…and deserve more exploration than a few lines here..!)

Just take  out the thorn from your paw, and get on with a peaceful life!!

There are far more and better things to do.. !!

Best wishes on this friday!  🙂

-Mani Navasothy

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