Once in a while I get a person/ friend/ friend of a friend..coming on into my posts/ discussions..and interactions quickly go south! and I end up totally shocked at the accusations they level at me..or indeed at `all men’.
When something propels that fast and out of the blue..and spirals out.. I have to remind myself to pull back and realise it’s really nothing to do with me.. but that person concerned probably has deep issues due to some past negative experiences or conditioning..
(who doesn’t?! I know I have my share of them.. It’s all work in progress – doesn’t mean am going to let everyone take pot shots at me. Am an aware man..but am also a human with my own instincts of self preservations!)
As sad as it is, the men-bashers really should stop projecting their issues on all the men and especially stop looking for `evidence’ that all men are bad, all men are dictators preachers, all men are angry and self-indulgers (words a recent female friend used at me, so am using it as some examples!)
Laws of attraction comes to mind. If you keep looking for any evidence, that becomes your reality and it will keep manifesting..! Science is all about looking for impartial and independent evidence.. (even then.. we have the quantum mechanical thing that we can’t observe a system without affecting it!). And psychology is full of the placebo effects (belief becomes real), projections and transferences..
In short..a mine-field of `mind-mines’! Any one of it can trigger..and explode and cause a messy wrangle..
Navigating through all this..and then trying to get to a truer reality is not easy.. In Fact it may never be possible. (That’s what `Maya’ or illusions is all about.. and only way out is through detachment.. of everything, and the quest for enlightenment and arriving at the feet of Lord Shiva! In short, one can’t be on Earth and hope to be out of reach of Maya…!)
So.. to any women out there into male bashing.. I’d say `please go about trying to truly heal the wounds one or more men may have inflicted on you..’ Because not all us men are bad.. but if you keep thinking that, and keep looking for evidence of that, you’ll find those monsters in all our manly shadows..
Remember Ladies.. there are many men out there who are doing a different kind of work.. Lammas Kings comes to mind. If you don’t know what that is…do look it up.
ps. And ofcourse… `men bashing women’ also has the same problems. Goes without saying.. But I’ll say it anyway.