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Dealing with Kangaroo Courts in your Personal Relationships..!

Have you been tried in emotionally charged Kangaroo Courts?  

When a bunch of people say they want to `clear the air’, call you to a friendly meeting in their home-grounds, beware that shadow pack-mentality is already in play behind the scenes, and their subconscious minds are looking for ways to hammer you into some sort of submissions. Sadly their minds are already projecting their own shadows on you..and it’s because you are `not accepting’ that they’ve become disgruntled suddenly.. They will keep looking to find behavioral evidence in you that proves they were right about you after all.  Anything and.. sadly everything you say..  will be taken as evidence against you..and used to prove only your guilt.   It’s a no-justice situation.. !

Question of intention:

Personal meetings start with best of intentions..or so it will seem  (groups of friends, in membership organisations, private family circumstances).  But the question is …do you or others want a real resolution, or are you all just gunning for someone’s guts under a pretense of `clearing the air’?

Transpersonal concepts to look up (if you really are interested)

  • Shadows
  • Ego & super-Ego
  • Projections and Projection Breaking
  • Transference  and Counter transference.

Initial advise:  

 a) Avoid meeting in their home-grounds. Neutral places are very important.  You need to feel safe and secure, as much as others!

 b) Starting states:  Are you are already starting with apprehensions, possibly a sense of persecution?  Except lawyers, no one goes in to such meetings without apprehensions.   Having a friend there is a good idea.

c) Are you a Chicken?    Beware goading tactics by others – your confidence or calm posture is the first things people tend to `attack’ (consciously or not).  Bombarding you with issues, bringing up real  vulnerable old issues are ways others can keep you off your balance.   `challenging you’ into a corner, ie asking if you can handle things or not (goading your ego) is another tactics lawyers and naturally clever people use ..

 d)  If one or more party declares they are not in a good emotional place (due to other factors) or tired from a long day of work etc..  have the common sense and decency to  postpone..especially if a postponement has been asked for.  Don’t then throw emotional manipulation and force the meeting to go ahead anyway!    Physical or emotionally tired situations bring out inner-child tantrums ..it’s grossly unfair and counter-productive to what you ALL are trying or hoping to achieve, and these meetings need to be between adults..not your inner-children..  Playground is best for kids.. not reconcilliation meetings!!

 e) During meeting, make sure all parties are seated in a balanced way…no one sitting on a higher chair or lower than others (believe me, that’s actually a clever disempowerment technique! )

 f) Find a neutral 3rd party `facilitator’ …not one who is involved in the situation, or has strong bonds with the others (or with you).    And when a `facilitator’ has no counselling or psychology training, and is the one self-appointed or appointed by the other parties, that is already a clouded objective situation..!

 g) Do not represent your self..   You simply can’t when you are in a highly charged emotional state..and what you say will only be used against you. Even hardcore criminals have lawful proper representations!

 h) When others star by saying, we are all friends / family here and this is not a confrontation but a chance to clear the air or resolve matters – don’t fall for that. They may mean well but human nature quickly takes over..and so does mud-slinging, tit-for-tat cleverness, bullying, reverse psychology, playing the victim, turning on the tears and so on. Unless you are God or a Saint, one tiny negative (even perceived) comment WILL evoke an internal defensive or retaliation reaction.  Those will simmer and work in your or their subconscious through out, and will seek expression – not immediately, but 5 minutes, 10mins, 2 hrs or even 5 months later!

 i) It is best to enter these `meetings’ with plenty of safeguards of neutrality, objectivity and arbitration..  There is huge potential for making matters worse!

 j) When someone keeps accusing another of a particular action, there is 50 – 50 chance that a) they are making a real observation   and/or  b) they are projecting their own `stuff’

k) `I hear you’ is not the same as `I understand’..  and `I understand’ stated in the heat of a meeting does not necessarily mean they or you do understand on an emotional level.   Thinking & Feeling are on opposite ends of the spectrum in Psychology!

l) Often a single meeting is never enough to get to the heart of issues. Time needs to pass for all to absorb what each other have said, and further meet-ups are required..

 

I shall look through my years of Counselling & Psychology training notes, and add more tips here later..

-Mani Navasothy

ps. Originally posted as a `Note’ in my facebook page.   Find me on facebook ..look for my page..   Mani Navasothy

Trial of a Time Lord (pt1): The Kangaroo Court

Doctor Who- Trial of a Time Lord. Photo by Mani.
Doctor Who(c)BBC

Doctor Who – one of my all time favorite TV shows – I’ve just been watching one of my old video tapes..

In the story `Trial of a Time Lord’ – the High Council of Gallifrey (Doctor’s own people)  take him out of time (sort of a `hi-jack’) and start with an `inquiry’ into his behavior.

“By Order of the High Council, this is an impartial inquiry into the behaviour of the accused person- known as The Doctor – who is charged  that he on diverse occasions has been guilty of conduct unbecoming a Time Lord. He is also charged with on diverse occasions of transgressing the first Law. The Doctor is an incorrigible meddler in the affairs of other peoples and planets”   – says Valeyard , the Court Prosecutor.

The proceedings start and the Prosecutor begins showing `evidence’  – bits of scenes gathered and presented, with parts of it censored or deleted (for security reasons, he claims). As the Doctor was yanked out of Time, he has temporary amnesia, and plays along with the `inquiry’  in order to get to the bottom of things.

And of course, what started off as an `impartial inquiry’ starts to evolve alarmingly – against The Doctor!

“These proceedings started as a mere inquiry into the Doctor’s activities. I am suggesting that now it becomes a trial. If he is found guilty, I strongly suggest the termination of his life..!”   blows the Court Prosecutor.

(Of course it is later revealed that the High Council was corrupt, and the Valeyard was hired to scapegoat and destroy the Doctor.. in a trumped up Trial.. There is more to the nature and identity of the Valeyard, but that’s a big psychology topic for another post!)

`Trial of a Time Lord’ –  first broadcast by the BBC in UK way back in 1986 (produced by the late John Nathan Turner). It is a 6th Doctor story (starring Colin Baker, who is currently on `I’m a Celebrity..Get me out of here’ on ITV..). By the way, few decades ago,I met Collin Baker in a science-fiction convention..  I won the first prize for creative art, and he gave me the prize on stage for me (but I also got to talk to him informally that day).  I have a photo of us somewhere…must post it when I find it 🙂

So this story `Trial of a Time Lord’ – it is one of my all time favorite .  Not just because it’s my first proper viewing of Doctor Who shows in UK..when I was beginning to understand English (back in Ceylone, I didn’t know English!)..  but because if the actual over-reaching story arc of the `Trial of the Time Lord’. It is of course about what we call `Kangaroo Court’ –  where a collection of individuals adjust, fabricate or  keep misrepresenting evidence, in order to reach their pre-fixed decision or judgement. It is a clever way of seeming to have a `public impartial trial’ – just to get what they already want- ie the condemnation of the accused. It is done in many dictatorial countries and systems… as a way of getting rid of people who otherwise pose a personal threat to the Controlling Body.

You see – at that time in the UK (1985-86) ,  Doctor Who (show) had come under heavy criticism by a few politically minded people.. (Mary Whitehouse?) who was attacking it for its story lines of guns, killing and violence.  Collin Baker’s 6th Doctor came after Peter Davison’s 5th Doctor – the Edwardian Cricketer costumed `nice guy’..  So am sure it was a shock to many people..  to see a Doctor who was seen to be impulsive, rash, radical, had his shadows showing here and then, and one who did not pull punches!

The Forfeit – Drwho art by Mani Navasothy
(The Doctor vs Valeyard)

I believe- and so do thousands of others – that Doctor Who stories of that era had far less violence that could be seen in other shows and films of the time.  (No one complained about all the other shows…I mean look at Star Wars?)   I think it was a politically motivated Witch-Hunt on Doctor Who..  and it manipulated public’s feelings with some threat of how children watching Doctor Who are getting badly influenced (right…and what of the hundreds of video games where children get to shoot, torture and kill…kill..kill.. with their own hands…with hyper-realism?!)

The BBC halted production for 18 months (until then Doctor who had been regular for every year..since 1963!!).   So when it came back on TV in 1986, people were watching it cautiously ..BBC was  cautious…and so the good Doctor Who was on trial..in the storyline..and for real too.   (sadly, after that series, it was suddenly changed…They scapegoated Collin Baker the Actor (for portraying the Character as it was written), instead of the writers for their stories…and instead of giving him decent new stories, they junked the whole thing-   cowardly scapegoating  damage control to shift blame..!

It was an unfair time!   And similar things happen to real people in real world communities and situations.  Guess what? It happened to me recently. But that’s another story..and this is about Doctor Who 🙂

Now here’s an art work I did many years ago..  showing the battle between the Doctor and the Valeyard – who wants the remaining life-force of the Doctor! It shows chess pieces.. Black Knight up and the white Bishop down..  The dice shows a total of 13 points..  representing the 13 `incarnations’ that a Time Lord has, and of course the `Hanged-Man’ card of Tarot – showing the Doctor being hung!   This one didn’t win the prize…but am fond of it. 🙂

Till next time..

Mani  (rebel Time Lord) 🙂

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